Post # 1
Over the past year and a half, I’ve become super close to some of my classmates (our classes are in a co-hort model, where we have every single class with the same group of people every semester), so naturally there are some that I want to invite to the wedding.
On the other hand, there are some who I do not want to invite or have no real bond with.
I know that if I don’t invite every single person, some people who don’t get an invitation will be offended. While I’d like to think that the people whom I invite would be able to keep things a secret, I know that it probably just isn’t possible and it is kind of lame to have to keep things hush hush.
So…what should I do? I have already addressed invitations to my close classmates/friends, but I haven’t sent them yet.
If I sit down and type out a short e-mail inviting everyone in the class to attend, and then give the invitations to my close buds, would that be rude or work ok? I know e-mail invites are probably a faux pas, but aren’t there certain situations where it is OK (classmates, co-workers, etc.)? I suspect that the people in question won’t come anyway (the wedding is an hour away, so you’d have to really want to come to drive all that way), but they will raise an issue if not invited and I don’t want to hear it, cause other people to listen to it, or be in the midst of some drama. These are NOT the type of people I’d want at my wedding, really, but I don’t know if it is worth all the fuss to not ask them to come to a wedding they probably won’t show at anyway.
Post # 3
I just went ahead and didn’t invite anyone. Now I’m wondering if I should have.
Post # 4
@Beth: I’ll be inviting one person from my office. I’m friends with all of them, but our wedding is limited to people that will genuinely be in our lives forever (30 people). I’ve made comments before about how small it is, so I don’t think they’d expect an invite.
Maybe start doing something similar, make comments about limited numbers at the venue and how you wish everyone could come. But can’t.
Post # 5
@Brooke1226: I think she got married 5 years ago.
Post # 6
@hiheel: ops! I’m on the iPad and saw it poa up in the fee. – I commented without looking at the date 🙂
Post # 7
I work in a small office where I’m close with about 5 people who I would definitely invite. We hang out outside of work, etc. There are about four other people in the office who I feel like I “have” to invite. I do like them, I just wouldn’t invite them if they didn’t work in my office directly.
I would say it depends on your number.
I have a friend who used to work here. He had just started around the time he was wedding planning and we all became close during that period. His RSVP numbers were low so he sent us a last minute email invite. No one was offended that we weren’t initially invited and those who could go were happy and excited to.
His email said something like: We would have invited you initially but our list was made/venue picked before we even met but since our responses came in under the number there is plenty of room available and I’d love you all to attend if possible. I agree that if it’s an hour away, most of the people who received the invite via email probably won’t go. I think it’s a nice gesture.