Post # 1
Happy Tuesday Bees!
My mom brought up an interesting point to me when I went over to her house this weekend. I’m a Legal Assistant, and I was recently hired at a large upscale firm to be the sole assistant between the entire tax department (that makes five lawyers, and a very busy Legal Bee). Two of my lawyers are senior partners, and I work closely with all of them on a daily basis.
So, should I consider inviting them simply because I work with/for them? One of the other Legal Assistants told me it’s pretty commonplace for Legal Bees to invite their boss to their wedding at our firm- but I have five bosses and they’re ALL married. Is it ever acceptable to only invite some from the group if it’s a close network?
Thanks in advance for any opinions, this isn’t something I’d given much thought to!
Post # 3
I think if you invite your bosses you must invite their husband/wife. I think its everyone or nobody. Plus they might just assume their husband/wife is invited too which not good for business.
Post # 4
@FutureJessicaMcB: I’m struggling with this myself…I have invited 3 of 10 teammates who I have social relationships with, and I’m waiting for the guest count to come in to decide if there’s room for the rest.
In your situation, I agree with @mkewed2010: in that it’s all with +1s or none. Good luck 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve been going thru this as well. I work very closely with my boss, which I will be inviting. I also have 3 other girlfriends from work, I will be asking. I didn’t send them save the dates because you never know what’s going to happen in this economy.
Since you are so new, I would even mention that you aren’t going to invite anyone from work. That might be the easy way out of it. It’s so hard I know, but then you don’t want people to get offended.
Post # 6
We’re inviting both of our departments (bosses included) as well as their SO’s which add roughly a dozen people to our guest list. I personally feel that if you invite some co-workers, you really need to invite them all especially when you’re talking about your bosses. I wouldn’t want to burn any bridges with the people who sign your paychecks.
Post # 7
I agree with the others, you definitely have to do +1s for everyone and if you invite one boss, you should invite them all. In other careers, I don’t think this is necessarily the case (and it’s not what I’m doing) BUT in a legal background, I think that’s your safest bet. Also, more than likely, they won’t all attend (for whatever that’s worth).
Post # 8
Yes, and definitely invite them with guests! Also, what is the etiquette for shower invites? I don’t want to go overboard with invites for my coworkers, since I’m sure in the office they’ll be planning something.
Is it horrible if I don’t invite them to the shower? They are all women…Let me know. I’m on the fence, I just don’t want people to feel obligated!
Post # 9
For bosses, I think it is pretty much all or nothing. For my husband this meant 4 bosses (plus spouses) Only two were able to make it though. And if you are worried about them all attending, you can forgo the Save the Date with them and invite them closer to the wedding. Be sure to think about the reception, embarrassing toasts from the family, etc, and if you feel comfortable having your bosses there.
As for coworkers, I love all my coworkers and was sad I couldn’t invite all of them. I went only with people I had spent time with outside of work. But even that decision made me sad as some of my favorite people in the office are newer. But I couldn’t see how to invite them without inviting some of the people who had been there longer.
Post # 10
I agree with everyone else, it’s all of them and their spouses or none of them.
Post # 11
@FutureJessicaMcB: We’ve invited Kingy’s boss but thats it, he only has one boss so its not as big of a deal- I think it would be a really nice gesture to invite them but its all or none- you don’t want to create any enemies out of this, so can you afford to invite 10 more people? If the answer is yes, do it, if not- skip them all and if anyone says anything, say its a very intimate wedding.