(Closed) Inviting Bridesmaid’s Family???

posted 11 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

If you are close to their parents or other family members, invite them.

I have three BMs who are not family.

I am inviting R’s mom and brother but not her father, who’ve I’ve met only a handful of times, or her ex-step father, who I knew growing up with R. I’m not inviting the ex-step father because R’s mother is closer to me than he is and she has a new, serious relationship. R’s brother is invited because he was like an annoying little brother to me.

Bridesmaid or Best Man C’s mother, her mother’s fiance and C’s grandparents are invited because I’m close with all of them. C’s father is not invited, even though he lives down the street from my mother, because I never knew him well growing up.

But neither of E’s parents or families, except her husband, of course, are getting an invite.

It all just depends on who has had an affect on your life and who you are close with now.

 Good Luck!

Post # 5
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh, ok. Well if you are inviting the dad, etiquette says you have to invite the fiance, too, as they are a serious couple. It’s like my Bridesmaid or Best Man R’s mother and her fiance. I don’t know her fiance well, but he’s getting an invite because R’s mother is and I’m close to R’s mother.

Post # 7
47 posts

I think it’s simply a matter of whether you think your Bridesmaid or Best Man would be offended if all of the other parents are invited and hers aren’t.  I’m sure the dad won’t care either way, but you don’t want to introduce tension with your Bridesmaid or Best Man — it’s not worth it.

Post # 8
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I have 8 bridesmaids.  3 are family and the others I invited all their parents but 1.  It was hard but I was in her wedding last year and she didn’t invite my parents and I knew they would be watching her 1 year old son so I think under certain circumstances its fine to forego inviting all the bridesmaids parents.

Post # 9
2025 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I find that most weddings I have been to, the only parents invited were those that the bride and groom were close to. I would not feel bad about not inviting parents that I hardly knew, if at all. I don’t know whay they would really want to go to a wedding where they didn’t know anyone.  My sister has been a maid of honor twice, and my parents were not invited to either one. They were not at all offended, as they had only met one of them once, and knew the other bride while in she was in high school with my sister, but who they personally had not seen or talked to in about 7 years (she moved away for college).

Post # 10
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Don’t worry about inviting the dad (I am inviting 4 out 5 parent sets from my BMs myself-and I do know the 5th’s, but just not close enough).  Try to think of it from her dad/fiance’s perspective- they know you as well as you know them, would them even want to come?  If your Bridesmaid or Best Man is hurt by this you can always just explain the cost reason & your closeness to the other families.  Don’t over think it, in hindsight no one will think twice about it more than likely :O)

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