(Closed) Inviting Children

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

We have a DOC who will kinda ask anyone — if they DO come with kids — to please make arrangements to not have the child(ren) in the church during the ceremony.  Awkward, but hey…we’ve made it clear from the start that there are to be no kids at our ceremony or reception!

Post # 4
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

There’s been a lot of posts on this type of thing and the general consensus seems to be that you have to put your foot down on this type of thing.  If you say that one person can bring a baby, then you have to say that everyone can.  I would just be nice and tell her that as stated in the invitations, it’s an adult-only ceremony and reception and she will have to make arrangements for babysitting.

Post # 5
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

ask the person to make arrangements and you do not want anything to ruin your ceremony

 

be strong!

Post # 6
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355 posts
Helper bee

that really sucks and i don’t understand why people blatenly ignore this request. youre going to have to bring it up to her that kids/babies are not invited. you could even make something up that another guest wanted to bring her kids, so you won’t be able to bend the rules for her either…thats just a white lie, right??

good luck!

Post # 7
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188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Perhaps you could arrange for a ‘day care’ type area during the ceremony.  It’s so hard for infants to be left without a parent, especially for the parents.  I understand not wanting to ruin your day but if it’s important to you to have your friends there perhaps you could help in some way…

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

We’re not inviting children, no do we want them there– they make me nervous. I’m not sure what I’d do if somebody showed up with their kids. I’m hoping that it’s understood that this is a night wedding aimed towards dancing, eating, and revelry and kiddies wouldn’t fit in.

 

I suck at confrontation, so I’ll have to pass the foot-putting-down duty to my Maid/Matron of Honor or mom. :p

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Fiftyfootbride has a point… give it to someone else to take care of!  It’s your day!  If 1 kid comes then people will be upset and bug you later..”I thought there were no kids allowed?”  Too much drama! 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

🙂 Just have someone play general bouncer- kids, crashers, etc. lol

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