- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
I work in a shop in a small village where gossip travels fast. Although our wedding is still a year and a half to go, Im trying to not mention any word of me getting married at my shop to not make it that obvious. Some family lives in the same village so word is going to come out that Im getting married. Also, we started to build our own place just on the other side of the street of my shop…so when you add up that we are building our own place, being 30 this year, everyone can conclude that we are getting married soon. Being a small village – everyone tends to gossip – some people have the nerve to come and ask me when Im getting married. I try to avoid a direct answer by replying “not anytime this year for sure”. My problem is that some people/clients (which may I remind you, I earn a living from) just conclude that they will be automatically invited. I once had a client tell me “you have to tell me a bit before hand when you are getting married so that I can go dress shopping!” ….so here is my problem. I cannot and also, do not want to invite any clients to my wedding. My mom came to the conclusion to invite no one and if someone asks me directly if they are invited just politely tell them “im sorry but I cannot afford to invite the whole village!” But isnt this just unnecessary problems! Is anyone in the same situation as I am? I cannot invite 1 or 2 clients because word comes out that Im prefering some clients over others. What would you do if you were in my situation? Please note that this is my job – so I cannot sound disrespectful. Also, Im not worried about what people say about me (I have heard my share of gossip about me from being pregnant, to having 4 children, to also getting pregnant by a priest..believe me, I cried when I heard this) (oh and btw, its not because you can see me out and about, coz I work 12hrs a day..its just their way of elderly people gossiping, I work in a pharmacy, so its also their way of putting their depression on someone else..you have to be in the business to really understand this) – I really dont care..im just scared for my business…scared that they think that “we” are friends for me to invite them to the wedding, and when they dont get an invite would just take offence and not come to the shop anymore. (also may I point out that I was never friends with anyone prior to opening the shop).