Post # 1
My fiance and I both work at the same place. We get along with all the workers, but i’m actually writing about a worker’s girlfriend. I get along really well with her and we’re friends. They live together and have a child, so if I invite her, I also need to invite her boyfriend (not a problem, he’s a nice guy and we both like him too).
This is the part I need help with. I know with co-workers it’s usually all or none, but i’m wanting to invite her (she’s not a co-worker) and the fact that her boyfriend works with us is sort of making me confused. If I invite them, do I need to invite all other coworkers (even though she’d be the ‘main’ guest)?
Post # 3
I think it’s fair to invite just one co-worker if there’s an obviously different relationship. (i.e. you’re not just coworkers, your his girlfriend’s friend.)
Post # 5
I’d invite them. Obviously you send the invitation to their home as opposed to deliver it to work.
My immediate supervisor is my Maid/Matron of Honor. I will also invite my big boss & his wife (they are like grandparents to us) and perhaps 1 or 2 other coworkers. Though I work in a relatively small office (~10 people) i don’t feel the need to invite them all.
Post # 6
I think it is only bad if you invited half your co-workers and not the other half…I’m sure it will be fine. If you are worried about it, have a quiet word to your friends boyfriend and just ask him to say that you invited his gilfriend and he is just tagging along.
Post # 7
Thank you all, that REALLY helped =)
Post # 8
Agree with PP’s- if you have no relationship outside of work with any co-workers, and you invite 3 and don’t invite another 3, that could be a problem. But if you make your choices based specifically on people you do and don’t have a relationship with outside of work, that’s a legit deciding factor. I only have a relationship with one co-worker outside of work- she’s been one of my best friends for five years. None of my other co-workers are invited, but she’s in the wedding. Everyone understands just fine.