(Closed) Inviting co-workers that don't want to bring their spouses

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
8469 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Lulume:  I don’t think it’s in bad taste if they specifically request that their spouse not be invited; it does however, sound troubling for their marriage.

Post # 4
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3266 posts
Sugar bee

the most polite way to handle it, is to invite the couple. the co-workers can RSVP for just themselves if they want.

Post # 6
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2963 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I once got an invitation from a co-worker to his daughter’s wedding (I knew her for years) and my invite said +1. I was having nasty fights with my then sig other, so I took my teenage daughter instead. Why not simply hand them their invites instead so they can do with them as they please?

Post # 7
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92 posts
Worker bee

I agree with the other bees, i think that since they are married you should address the invite as a couple. It is then up to them to decide if they would like to come with their spouses or not.

 

Post # 8
Hostess
7564 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

This is tough since their spouses may think you’re rude. Still, I would probably do what they asked and only invite your coworkers. Maybe you should let them know that other coworkers will have their families there though. 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Lulume:  can i have your coworkers please? that’s amazing and wonderful! go with it!

Post # 14
Hostess
14026 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I agree with others — you can invite both the coworker and the spouse, and then it’s up to the coworkers to RSVP for only themselves. That way, you’re not actually excluding their spouses.

And I think that, considering how you described the team environment at your office, it’s okay to only invite those you work with and are close with. 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Honestly? I think there are different rules for co-workers.

Chances are, I KNOW my friend’s boyfriend/fiance/husband. I do not know my colleague’s. If I invite a few colleagues, they can all hang around together, and not be on ‘their own’.

We all go to the pub on a Friday night without our partners, why is a wedding different?

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2018

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