Inviting co-workers to wedding

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 2
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1863 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I’d wait and see. Invites should not be sent out until 6-8 weeks prior, anyway. Someone might leave the job. Relationships may change. We may still be under covid restrictions.

If your work group is 8-10 people, and you’re inviting less than half of them, I think that’s ok. Just don’t invite 7 and exclude 1 or something like that.

Post # 3
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7804 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with pp to wait. Dont tie yourself down to them just yet, considering you have over a year who knows what will happen. 

But I disagree on inviting only a few. I think it would be really awkward to invite 4 and NOT invite the other 4. I can 100% understand that youre closer to some, but I wouldnt want to create potential issues where I work. If you work with 50 and want to invite 4, thats one thing. Of course no one is entitled to a wedding invite, but I think with such a small team the exclusion will definitely be obvious. 

Post # 4
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796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My suggestion would be leave them all out. But if you do, don’t talk much about your upcoming wedding around the office. No one is entitled to an invite.

Post # 5
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30393 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is nothing wrong with only inviting some of your co-workers. We are talking adults here.Everyone knows that weddings are expensive and are not a work related social.

A good general guideline is to only invite those with whom you have a personal relationship outside work. Group BBQ’s and other group gatherings are not a personal relationship. Invite the people you meet for drinks, dinner, activities outside work group, the people you invite to your home, or go to theirs.

You can minimize talk about your wedding at work, and ask those who are invited to be discreet at work.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

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@kmadison23:  I only invited two former coworkers to my wedding a few years back. I invited the two I was closest to, and I also invited two current coworkers. Of the 4, only one of the former coworkers came, even though one of the current coworkers I invited I went out with regularly for drinks and we had hung out during off hours, and the other current coworker I had also spent some time with outside of work. 

TBH, from this I learned that coworkers are just that. If you don’t hang out with them outside of work, and if work is your only connection, I wouldn’t invite them. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee

Just an FYI, significant others are not plus ones. They are a social unit and should be invited by name.

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