Post # 1
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Busy bee
Hi Bees, I need soem advice. If I invite my co-workers to my wedding, do I need to extend a “plus one” to each of them? I only hang out with one or two of them after work hours on occasion, so it’s not like I’m BFFs with any of them, nor have I met some of their spouses. I’ve been at this job for just over 2 years btw. I like them all in general though, but still need to keep my wedding numbers in check. Also, are individual invitations necessary or is it ok to just send or post one as a ‘group invite’?
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
If they’re married or engaged, then you really have to invite the spouses. Individual invitation is best. Especially if you are expecting them to RSVP for your final count
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
If they’re in a relationship or married, you need to invite them with a guest. If they’re single, and there are several other single people, it’s okay to do single invitations.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
I asked around my circle of single or casually dating friends and they all expressed that they would be happy to come date-less if everyone was coming date-less (e.g. a drunken singles table or two). That being said, everyone that is in a committed relationship is allowed to bring their significant other. So no plus-ones is okay in my book, unless they are married/engaged/living with someone.
As for the group invite, I think that is tacky…unless you are having a super casual event. Also, that will not allow you to control the plus-one situation very well.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
Spouses aren’t really a “plus one.” If they’re married I think you really should invite the spouses.
As for the invites, definitely individual invites. A group invite could come across as very rude, like they were an afterthought.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
@SugerPlum: You don’t have to give them a “plus one.” I am inviting several coworkers to my wedding and am only inviting a second person with them if they are married, engaged, or in a very serious relationship. It is just soooo expensive otherwise. And besides, you want people at YOUR wedding that YOU know. Just put the coworkers at a table together and they’ll have people to mingle with. My mom insisted that every single female that we invited must have an “escort”… in other words, a “plus one.” I was able to convince her otherwise (but only after she googled modern wedding day etiquette). She is stuck in 1965. Good Luck!
Oh, and DO NOT do the group invite. Yuck.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
With married/engaged/living together its pretty much the universal rule that you invite both halves of the couple. If you need to watch your numbers, I’d suggest just not inviting the coworkers that you aren’t very close to (that is way more understandable and less rude than inviting a married person without their spouse).
Post # 8
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1433 posts
Bumble bee
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
I think I’m inviting both of my bosses and their spouses, and then maybe another 2 coworkers and their spouses. So I’m really trying to include spouses.
Plus chances are they won’t all come.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
Lots of good advice, thanks all.
We’re a small office and the main problem is that there is only one person that I don’t really get on as well with than everyone else. I also don’t really care for their spouse, they are kind of a jerk. I wish I could just not invite the one person, but that would definitely be worse than inviting everyone (very small office of only 10 total ppl).
I am giving individual invitations to my 2 bosses with plus ones for sure, and after everyone’s advice, I’ll just bring invites for everyone. Maybe I’m strange that way, but personally, I don’t mind just getting a group invite to something.
Post # 10
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Honey bee
As long as everyone goes home with an invite (so they have the details) I think you’re fine. better would be to mail the invites to their homes and avoid bringing them to work, if you’re not inlcuding everyone.
