(Closed) inviting co-workers? What happens when someone leaves?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would have a “crisis” and say that only close friends and family can now be invited, and not invite your coworkers at all.  They are your coworkers, not your friends.  Unless you hang out with these people on a regular basis outside of work, I don’t think they should come.

 

Anyway, in real life, just invite the girl.  You’re already over your limit anyway, so what’s one more person?  That way it won’t be awkward.  I would not invite the person who left unless you regularly hang out with her.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I say no to inviting the girl who left. If you haven’t spoken to her since, then she probably won’t be expecting an invite, and even if she were to get in contact with you regarding not getting an invite I think it’s pretty obvious that y’all don’t ever talk, therefore she has no place at your wedding.

Yes, to inviting the new girl. Yes, she’s the new girl and you don’t know her well, but you said above that it’s an everyone or no one thing (which I don’t totally agree with) and she does work there. I think it would be awkward for her on Monday if everyone else had gone and she wasn’t invited.

My .2 cents

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@breadandbutterflies:  I agree – I don’t think you are obligated to send the girl who left an invitation. You will probably never see her again, so why bother?

I work in a small office and I understand the dynamics of a small office. I don’t know about yours, but at mine we are all super close so to me, it’s more like an extended family, not just someone I’m forced to work with. I care about these people and so they are all coming.

The new girl is a different situation, but use your instincts and invite her if you are close enough.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@breadandbutterflies:  I do think it’s rude to not invite them after you’ve given them Save-The-Date Cards…lol that sentence could have more than one meaning.  Anyway, if you’ve been talking about the wedding a LOT at the office, you can’t get away with not inviting them all.  

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had the same problem. Our solution…only invite them to the dance. That way we don’t have to pay for dinner and they still feel like a part of your special day!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would invite the new girl. As time passes on, you both may become really close, and the wedding will be a good memory for her and your friendship. Besides, if the entire office is closing shop for your wedding– it will truly make her feel unwelcomed. That’s the perfect thing about the invites, too, just because you’re giving an invitation doesn’t mean they have to accept. So, if she is unable to come, she will politely decline and this will no longer be an issue. But, I am pretty sure she will come and I think it’s a great idea to extend that invitation to her.

As for the previous co-worker, I am 50/50 on this one. Since you gave her a save-the-date, I almost feel like it would be bad manners not to send the invite. But, on the other hand you don’t talk any more. I am 90% sure she wouldn’t show anyway, especially since your other co-workers would be there and it would be akward. But, sending the invite to her anyway shows class and that you are true to your word. You may even get a nice, “congratulations” card back from her and possibly a gift for being so polite. I am 50/50 on that one. Go with your gut. I can be “a little too nice (Southern upbringing)” as well, so if it were me, I’d just send the invite.

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