(Closed) Inviting colleagues to your wedding

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1330 posts
Bumble bee

My friend went through this recently and she extended invitations to her new coworkers and bosses. Everyone declined.

I think extending an invitation to everyone is something you should definitely do, as a political move. It is polite, gives them the option to decline, and if they go, will see how great a couple the two of you are, hopefully earning you some extra brownie points.

I had a store five years ago and have two of my former employees attending my wedding. When they get married,  I would go. If it is a small environment,  I think playing it safe is always better than excluding as small work environments are a challenge upon themselves.

Again, most probably won’t attend and probably decide to just take you out for lunch instead.

PS. Please dont kill me if all RSVP.


Post # 4
3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

cGWe’re not inviting anyone from work. We drew the line there. Well actually, Fiance sent his boss a STD and he’s about to be offered a new job, so I don’t know if we’ll still invite him.

Post # 5
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Because you haven’t been at your job very long, I say you can just work off of the assumption that your guest list was created before you even started there. I don’t think people will expect to be invited. And if it’s a small company, it’s probably easier not to invite anyone than to pick and choose. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have been at my job 3 years and I am not inviting any coworkers to my wedding!  I think that is one group of people that you can easily justify not inviting, if you dont want to.   

You may get along with them in a work setting and like them as people, but it doesnt sound you are close to them at all.  I say don’t bother inviting them.  I doubt they are expecting an invite anyways. 

Post # 8
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am just inviting my boss.

Post # 9
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You know, 3 days ago I would have told you to invite them.  I really like my job and I intend to stay here for a long time, so I felt that it was important to invite the people that I interact with on a daily basis.  I felt that it would be too political to just invite 1 or 2 of my favorites.  Well, no good deed goes unpunished!  Yesterday, one of the honchos that was invited comes into my office and says “we watch our grandchildren most weekends.  Is it going to be an issue if we bring them?”. I had to smile and tell him as politely as I could that this is most definitely an issue.  He just scoffed and said “well, we’ll see what we can do”.  So, now my advice is to do whatever you want.  I went out of my way to try not to be rude to this man (who is an executive of a major company and should know better) and the same courtesy was not extended back to me.

Post # 10
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you did answer your own question Smile

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