Post # 1
I have only been at my new job for 6 months and I am getting married in 6 weeks (engaged for almost a year). My RSVP date for invites is drawing near and I am in a panic as to whether or not to invite any colleagues. I work in a small company of only 12 people, but I would only want to invite my three bosses and their wives, as I get on very well with them, but I would not invite everyone as I would rather draw the line at just my bosses. However, it is a few extra guests which we did not initially plan for, so I am not actually sure we can afford it. However we may have some people unexpectedly saying they can’t make it and we may then have space for them.
Firstly, is it rude to only invite the bosses, or is it rude to just not invite any work people at all? They are not friends of ours, my fiance has met them and we have socialized on one or two occasions at a work function but that’s it. Have I answered my own question here? 🙂
Post # 3
My friend went through this recently and she extended invitations to her new coworkers and bosses. Everyone declined.
I think extending an invitation to everyone is something you should definitely do, as a political move. It is polite, gives them the option to decline, and if they go, will see how great a couple the two of you are, hopefully earning you some extra brownie points.
I had a store five years ago and have two of my former employees attending my wedding. When they get married, I would go. If it is a small environment, I think playing it safe is always better than excluding as small work environments are a challenge upon themselves.
Again, most probably won’t attend and probably decide to just take you out for lunch instead.
PS. Please dont kill me if all RSVP.
Post # 4
cGWe’re not inviting anyone from work. We drew the line there. Well actually, FI sent his boss a STD and he’s about to be offered a new job, so I don’t know if we’ll still invite him.
Post # 5
Because you haven’t been at your job very long, I say you can just work off of the assumption that your guest list was created before you even started there. I don’t think people will expect to be invited. And if it’s a small company, it’s probably easier not to invite anyone than to pick and choose. 🙂
Post # 6
I have been at my job 3 years and I am not inviting any coworkers to my wedding! I think that is one group of people that you can easily justify not inviting, if you dont want to.
You may get along with them in a work setting and like them as people, but it doesnt sound you are close to them at all. I say don’t bother inviting them. I doubt they are expecting an invite anyways.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! Definitely agree with those that say rather don’t invite any of them, and yes, our guest list was pretty much decided before I even started here.
I think it’s true that just because you get on with someone it doesn’t make them a close friend.
Safer to just leave them off I think!
Post # 8
I am just inviting my boss.
Post # 9
You know, 3 days ago I would have told you to invite them. I really like my job and I intend to stay here for a long time, so I felt that it was important to invite the people that I interact with on a daily basis. I felt that it would be too political to just invite 1 or 2 of my favorites. Well, no good deed goes unpunished! Yesterday, one of the honchos that was invited comes into my office and says “we watch our grandchildren most weekends. Is it going to be an issue if we bring them?”. I had to smile and tell him as politely as I could that this is most definitely an issue. He just scoffed and said “well, we’ll see what we can do”. So, now my advice is to do whatever you want. I went out of my way to try not to be rude to this man (who is an executive of a major company and should know better) and the same courtesy was not extended back to me.
Post # 10
I think you did answer your own question