(Closed) Inviting estranged family members?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
76 posts
Worker bee

If it’s drama with other people in your family besides yourself, then I would be wary of doing anything without discussing it with the people involved. You wouldn’t want to upset people you do talk to regularly.

Post # 4
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t invite them.  You wouldn’t want anyone to use your wedding as a place to stir up trouble or rehash old arguments.  If you really want a reconcilliation with these people consider meeting with them before the wedding to see if they are receptive, then go from there.  I second, ONash, though about talking to your close family about this first.  You wouldn’t want to upset your close fam.  WEddings are emotional enough for people, especially your parents, and you wouldn’t want to make them uncomfortable on such a special day.  Good luck! 

Post # 6
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Its a tough decision…I think you made the best choice though. Good luck.

Post # 7
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m inviting a brother I haven’t talked to for 2 or 3 years. My two other brothers haven’t spoken with him for about 1 year. He’s been estranged from the family (by his choice) off and on for 20/25 years. But he’s my brother and I don’t want to hear through the family grapevine that he was upset about not being invited. So I’m sending him an invite but I really don’t think he’ll come.

It’s a hard decision to make. You have to do what you feel is right, not what everyone else thinks you should do.

Good luck!

Post # 8
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am not inviting any estranged family members … and I don’t feel one bit guilty for it. If they are not in my life, it’s for a good reason.

Just found out that an estranged family member told someone they would not be coming to my wedding … not that I would invite them … but it took a serious burden off of my shoulders.

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