Post # 1
Would it be wrong to invite only my aunts and uncles who I like to my wedding and omit the ones who I dislike?
my dad came from a big family (10 kids) and I have a ton of first cousins on his side. However my dad passed away a few years ago and we have little if any relationship with most of them now. Before his death our relationship was strained (another long story) but for the most part it’s nonexistant now. There are a few of my uncles and cousins we’re still courteous with although not close.
Would it be wrong to invite the family members we have a relationship with to my wedding? Should I invite everyone and be the bigger person even tho I don’t want to see them or should I just not invite any of them?
Post # 2
My DH had not seen most of his mother’s family in MANY years. No disagreements or dislike but they just weren’t close. We invited them anyway out of fairness. Most of them did not come save for one family and it was a pleasant surprise to have them there! I personally believe if you invite some uncles & aunts, you need to invite all unless there’s a special circumstance like abuse or a really big conflict. Not knowing what happened with these family member it’s hard to say but I would try to invite them if the budget allows.
Post # 3
If your relationship is truly non-existent, don’t bother inviting them. They should understand. I would probably still invite them if you have somehwat of a relationship.
Post # 4
We didn’t invite one of his Aunts. He hates her, she was unkind to him when he was a kid. She was the only one we didn’t invite.
Post # 5
it’s kind of like that except more than one aunt.
Post # 6
agreed! There is a big on going conflict plus they basically forgot we existed after my dad died so that was the cherry on top. If he was alive I’d invite them for him…