- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I think we’re just going to invite children 18+ who live with their parents separate invitations because we are allowing plus ones for people 18+ and I think that would make the situation too confusing if we invited “The Smith Family” and it would include all members of the family and their plus ones.
I was going over my guest list to order the invitations and came to my sister. She is separated from her husband (who is not invited) and lives with her two sons, both under 18 (14 and 16). She has been in a relationship with someone for the past two years or so. When we sent the Save-The-Date Cards I think I put The Smith Family and John Doe (they do not live together). She objected to this because she thinks it’s inappropriate for me to include him by name on any invitations. I think she wants her invitation to say “and guest”. So I’m not sure what to do about the invitations. Do I send one to The Smith Family and a separate one to Mr. John Doe at his address (I know this is what etiquette says)? Do I send one to The Smith Family and John Doe at her address? Do I send one to her and guest and separate ones to her children (since they are not getting guests?
Also, the invitation we have selected has a calla lily design on it. There are calla lily designs available on the place cards which we picked out at our meeting. However, I’m not sure if I’m going with calla lilies for the flowers (leaning towards roses). Should I just leave the place cards blank if I’m not sure it would match the decor or is it better to match the invites? Also, the font on our invites will be midnight blue (think navy) because that’s what color scheme the invites came in but our “blue” is probably closer to sapphire blue. Should we match our invites on the place cards or change to sapphire blue for the place cards? I’m not sure anyone would even notice on either of these.