(Closed) Inviting Family Kids but Not Friends kids?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
9436 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Not wrong but that doesn’t mean people won’t be upset by it. You just have to accept that some people will choose not to come if they can’t bring thier kids.

Post # 3
6583 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

This is what we did. No one had an issue with it.

Post # 4
2943 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Not wrong at all, but like PP said that doesn’t mean that no one will be upset by it. I would hope they won’t be and I think it’s ridiculous for anyone to be, but not everyone is rational and even tempered lol

Are any of your FH’s friends the type that you can see throwing a fit over it?

Post # 5
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

You have to delineate somehow, so that makes sense.  I went to a wedding once where the website said “unfortunately we cannot accomodate children except those in the immediate family.”


Post # 6
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Canada

This is what we’re doing.  Even some family didn’t get the kid invite (cousins kids).  No one has said anything to us. 

Post # 7
196 posts
Blushing bee

We are doing the same thing. We couldn’t say no kids at all, so we drew the line at family only. 

Post # 8
590 posts
Busy bee

Family is different than friends. I think it’s fine to invite kids in your family and not your friend’s kids.

Of course there might be some people who decide not to come because they can’t bring their kids (whether it’s that they don’t want to leave their kids, can’t afford a sitter, etc.) but I think for the most part people aren’t taken off guard when their kids aren’t invited to a wedding.

Post # 9
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I am doing the same but I am cutting it off at nieces and nephews only with the exception of babies 

Post # 11
2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017


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Sunshine024 :  we definitely only invited immediate family children, and we definitely got yelled at on facebook for not inviting other people’s kids.

The trick is not to take it too hard and move on because it’s your day. Let them be mad if they want.

Post # 12
1025 posts
Bumble bee

“Family kids” are also your family. It’s completely different. Personally I’ve never been to a wedding that’s a kid free for all – it’s sone subset of the family (immediate only, cut off at first cousins, etc.)

Post # 13
1277 posts
Bumble bee

This is what we are doing an we are getting a lot of pushback on it. My friends are pretty upset. 

Post # 14
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I think it’s fine as long as you stick to just family’s kids and understand some people may not come because they don’t have some one to watch their kids. I have seen some couples just assume their friends could find someone to watch their children and then be annoyed when they didn’t come to the wedding. For me I’m only inviting family and all my cousins have kids and if I didn’t invite their kids no one would come most live out of state. But I get it it’s exspensive having kids at your wedding and no one should get mad at you if you don’t invite their kids but theirs always someone out there that will. Weddings are exspensive everyone always makes Assumptions on what they think you can afford so just stand your ground. People forget the costs of weddings go up each year. 

Post # 15
13801 posts
Honey Beekeeper

It’s normal and acceptable practice to draw the line at family children. IMO anyone who has an issue with it is either uninformed or looking for a reason to be upset. I would not think twice. 

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