Post # 1
Etiquette is really important to me (you know, the old-fashioned kind of etiquette!), so we’re making a point of inviting all of our bridesmaids’ parents. One of our bridesmaid’s (and my very good friend) parents have their youngest daughter still living at home… but she’s about to graduate college (around 21-22ish). Should I invite her too? I hate to invite the whole family except her, but I also know I shouldn’t send an invitation to her parents and her together since she’s over 18. I’m not really friends with her (I tutored her years and years ago, but I haven’t even seen her in probably 4-5 years). I don’t feel like she’ll make our day any more special by being there, but I don’t want to leave her out if it would hurt her or her family’s feelings!
Post # 3
Can you swing it in your guest list count? I would try to, just to keep the peace.
Post # 4
I think if you’re sticking to formal etiquette, you should invite her (and send her her own invitation): her whole family is going to be there, and talking about it before and after, don’t leave her out.
Particularly if she’s younger, and you’ve tutored her in the past, she may really look up to you.
Inviting her may not make a difference to your day, but it could mean a lot to her.
Post # 5
Our guest list is getting really tight… and since I am making my fiance stick to the 175 spots I gave him, I’m trying to make myself (and my mom) stick to it too! But I think y’all are probably right. Maybe I should ask my Bridesmaid or Best Man and see what she thinks?? I’m scared it’ll come off wrong. I might just have to bite the bullet!
Thanks for y’alls help!
Post # 6
I would try to squeeze her onto the list. You’re going to have some “no’s” so hopefully it’ll balance..
I feel your pain, though.
Post # 7
I’d squeeze in the bridesmaid’s sibling if at all possible, but I wouldn’t worry about a second invitation. I know that it would be more proper to do so, but I don’t think the added expenditure is completely necessary.