(Closed) inviting guest to avoid drama? AKA former friends nuts

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Might just be easier to invite her and ignore her, especially after reading the Maid/Matron of Honor and friends advise.  After the wedding let the friendship die and be done with it.  You will be to busy to socialize much with her anyway.  I wouldn’t invite her to anything else though, start that distancing now.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@H2MrsDj: How much “drama” would there be if she is not invited? Do you share mutual friends who like her?

The fact that she is trying to push a stranger on your wedding day is annoying. I remember wedding planning people like that I ignored. We work too hard for our money to allow people to bully an invitation.

Tell her the wedding is for family and you want it small. Claim budget reasons.

Post # 5
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@H2MrsDj: Better yet, tell her to pay for her friend’s plate hehehehe. I still say don’t invite her. If she’s toxic, let the relationship die now

Post # 6
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4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have a friend that I really don’t like, at all. Actually I wouldn’t be friends with her at all, but she was my friend when I was a kid and my mom feels sorry for her. If she doesn’t get what she wants from her own mom, then she calls mine (kind of like an honorary aunt or something).

I really don’t want her, or her spoiled unruly children at my wedding but I don’t know how to avoid it. If I don’t invite her (or her kids) I’m sure my mom will tell her anyway and she’ll end up coming even if she isn’t invited. My mom is one of those people who will try to control situations and manipulate them into her outcome even if that’s not what you want.

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