Post # 1
Is there a way to invite coworkers to the ceremony and the after-dinner reception? We are on a tight budget and regret we can’t invite everyone to the dinner portion of the reception but want to have them celebrate with us after. Only family and intimate family friends will be invited to the dinner.
Post # 2
I don’t think there’s a way to do this tastefully..
If I were you, I wouldn’t invite anyone that wasn’t invited to the dinner portion. Sorry :o/
Post # 3
No, just invite the ones you can afford to invite to the whole event.
If you want to celebrate with other people, do something at a bar or restaurant after the fact, but don’t call it a wedding if you’re not going to pay for their meal. People will feel obligated to bring you a gift if that’s the case, but you should properly host them.
Post # 4
I know in some places (the UK for instance) there are tiered events, perfectly the norm and accepted……but if I’m not close enough to be invited to dinner, I wouldn’t go – but that’s just me.
Post # 5
What are they supposed to do in between while the people you like more are having dinner? No way would I accept that invitation.
Post # 6
No that’s really awkward.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Are these people expected to leave after the ceremony then return later or sit awkwardly watching everyone else eat dinner while they go hungry? If your ceremony and reception aren’t in the same location then how do you explain that they need to find something to do to kill time bc they aren’t invited to dinner? Not even sure how this is supposed to work.
Post # 8
I have seen people be invited only to the after dinner portion. That usually doesnt fly either, but its better than asking people to leave after the ceremony and then come back for the after party. What do they do in between – go home? Go eat dinner themselves? i guess it depends on the locations.
The party that i saw invited to the after dinner only was coworkers and that was because they were all on the late shift finishing at 8pm/9pm.
Post # 9
Nope. Dinner is part of the celebration if you wish for them to “celebrate” with you. Either don’t invite them at all or find a more affordable dinner caterer to accommodate your coworkers too.
Post # 10
Where I am from, inviting people to come later on for drinks is totally acceptable. However, these people are not invited to the ceremony either, theyre invited JUST for drinks. Inviting people to the ceremony and then asking them to come back at like 1030 pm will come off as rude so I wouldnt do that
Post # 11
UK bee here and yes here giving evening invites is the norm. Usually it is for colleagues, recent friends, partners etc.
Its rare that you’d invite them to the ceremony and then the evening though. Usually it’s just evening.
in my book it’s fine to do. I’ve accepted evening only invites and sent them for our wedding.
Post # 12
No you definitely can’t invite them to the ceremony but not dinner. That’s a hard no. If you want to just invite them for drinks/dancing after dinner that’s alright, if it matches the relationship you have with them, like not so close co-workers.
Post # 14
That’s a no-go in the US.
Post # 15
We were invited to a wedding like this (husband’s coworker) We were invited to the church ceremony and evening reception (no dinner). We went to the reception for the party but didn’t bother to go to the church. The party was alot of fun and we weren’t bothered by not being invited to the dinner, but we had no desire to get ready/dress up for an early afternoon ceremony just to wait for the reception. I wouldn’t be surprised if your coworkers did the same thing.
Personally I understood that in my husband’s line of work, coworkers are extremely close (“brothers and sisters”) Everyone seems to invite their entire platoon + spouses and that would be an extra 30ish people to add to the dinner. It was nice to be able to go and have drinks with everyone, our feelings weren’t hurt at all.