(Closed) Inviting his “bosses”

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: To invite or not to invite?
    Listen to PenguinGuy and not invite them : (3 votes)
    100 %
    Invite them anyway : (0 votes)
    Any other suggestion? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I don’t think you are obligated to invite CO and XO.  I would, however, talk to Fiance about why inviting CO’s wife is so important to you.  It does seem that it wouldn’t matter if you invite CO & wife or not, since they’ll be gone…. I’d save the argument and not invite them.

    Post # 4
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    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If he is adamant about not inviting his bosses, why are you pushing this? Because of etiquette? Military stuff is different–your Fiance probably doesn’t want to have to act formal around his military bosses. There’s a type of decorum involved in this. I know inviting any of DH’s bosses at the time (Dh was the XO to give you an idea), it would have been a buzz kill. Just invite the ChEng if you want to because, after all, you are friends with his wife. But, i think it IS pointless if you konw they won’t come! We didn’t bother inviting ANY of DH’s military buddies (even the guys he was deployed with) b/c he said “they can’t make it anyways, i don’t want to make them feel like they need to buy us a gift due to an invitation”.

    I would not invite any of them! Inviting her DOES mean inviting her husband, but does not mean inviting anyone else.

    I dunno, having the Commanding Officer at your wedding is a big deal. Respect your husband’s wishes…it’s not the same as a manager or executive manager at a regular company.

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