(Closed) Inviting kid-less friends to your child’s b’day party – thoughts, please!

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

This is a hot issue among our friends!! So funny to see a post about it! It’s a long story so I wno’t bother getting into it but as someone who has been excluded from tons of parties simply because of being childless, I think if you’re good friends, you invite them whether they also have kids or not. It’s up to them to decline the invite. Growing up I always had a “kids party” and an “adults party” so that is what I plan to do. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I only invite my closest friends to my son’s party that don’t have kids. They always show up however they know my kid and often spend time with us as a family and have grown to love him like an nephew. If they aren’t super close to me and my son than I do not invite them.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I went to the ones that I could. Most of my friends had kids when I went off to college so I couldn’t always make it. I would always send a card. It does mean alot to the parents that you seem excited, and I get invitations addressed to me. lol Now that I am pregnant, they will address all invites to our future child. 

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

As a parent I wouldn’t expect kidless friends to attend my kids’ parties.  The activities, foods, games etc. are all geared towards the kids.  What sane adult would want to attend that unless they had children of their own?

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’ve been to a few 1 and 2 year old parties, and they’ve always been geared to adults. The kids don’t have a ton of friends yet.

I expect I’ll be doing the same thing, and I’d like it if my kidless friend’s came. I wouldn’t be mad at them if they couldn’t, but I think it would be nice to have them there to support me and my child. As my baby grows up, I feel like the parties will start to be more about the kids and less about the adults, and then I woulnd’t invite any adults but family and of course parents of the children invited.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sometimes parents use the kid’s birthday as a chance to throw a party – so some will have entertainment for the kids but also have drinks and food for adults – I think it depends on the party if it’s clowns and balloon animals only then I don’t see why kid-less adults would be invited (or want to go).

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I would only go to a family or close friend’s kid’s party. I don’t even like children that much. So there’s no way I’m showing up to a kids party when it has nothing to do with me, being an adult. But that’s just me 🙂

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Wow, this thread surprises me. I just attended a first birthday party for our close friends’ kid. There were quite a few childless couples there that attended, us included. I can count 4 offhand. We didn’t feel out of place or weird. In fact, it was a lot of fun. I can see close friends in the future attending a baby shower and later a birthday party. I’d still want them there throughout those steps in our life regardless of with kids or not.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@brox: Thank you! I feel like that is how it should be! 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Of those without kids, I would only invite my very best friends to my son’s first bday party.  that said, before I had a kid, I would always go to parties of my closest friends’ kids because they are important to me!  Obviously this is for very young kids, not an older child’s party where it is really about the kid and not the parents 🙂  to me, its not really any different from going to a wedding shower, which I frankly find much more boring than a kid’s bday partiy:)  and I was never a kid person!!

I am not really sure why having a kid or not should make me any less willing to be there for important times in my friends’ lives….and first/second bday parties are usually more about the family/parents than the kid!

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

We recently attended a 4th birthday party as the only childless couple. It was a small party and started in the afternoon so it was perfect for adults although it was actually child focused, there were only 4 kids and their parents. However, I’m really glad we went because the birthday child was happy to see us and remembered us even though we don’t see her very often. Also, it’s fun to give kids presents and watch them get excited for new toys. Sometimes the conversation was unrelatable but it went with the situation. I would go to birthdays for young children but may think about showing up late to a 9am Sat. affair.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What’s with these parties starting at 9 AM?  Who wants their kid eating cake at like 10 am?  I’m confused.

My husband and I have been to several 1 year old birthday parties, mostly for family but a handful for friends.  The last one we went to, there were only three kids there, and it was mostly adults.  There was wine, beer and a taco bar for the adults, and we all had a great time visiting and watching the birthday girl open gifts and eat her cake. Most of these parties have been all about watching the millions of kiddos run around and play in a park or at a community center, so we always wait until after cake and then we make a polite exit.

That being said, if it wasn’t a close friend, I would decline and either send a nice card or drop by later with a gift. 

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