(Closed) Inviting men to shower?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we had my shower at a countryclub, and officially men weren’t invited, but my dad really wanted to do brunch there too because he loves the food, so he invited a few men (the men in the wedding party, my fi’s dad, and some friends) to eat in the main dining area, while we were in a private room. they popped in quite often to see what was going on, which of course i didn’t mind, so i thought it was kind of silly that they weren’t just with us the whole time.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

but i’ve never been to another shower with men invited.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Personally, I’ve never been to a shower with men invited.

Edit/addition: and my Fiance definitely won’t be invited because we live in NYC and the shower will be upstate.  No reason for him to drag himself three hours away from the city to make an appearance haha ;o)

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve never been to one either, but I kind of want to include Fiance if he wants to be there. I am sure that I won’t have just one, so it shouldn’t matter. I want one co-ed shower where people bring his and her gifts. That way we can get things just for us. Then the other shower can be ladies only. I also want  a lingerie shower…so basically I want 3. We’ll see how that goes, lol.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve never been to a shower where men were invited, but I did go to one where the groom was there.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it is important for the groom to be present as it isn’t just for the bride. I had my dad and my sister’s Future Father-In-Law at hers. I believe that the groom, my dad, and groom’s dad will be present at mine.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The whole thing is baffling to me too… I’m kind of disturbed at the sexist implications of only women being present when cooking supplies are being passed around. My Fiance and his friends cook too and the stuff will be in OUR kitchen.  I think the no-men thing is bizarre.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’re having a couples shower so we could invite everyone. I’ve been to showers where men were present but they typically hid out or did their own thing in another room.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No men come to showers in my family. Its just a girl thing and honestly i dont think the men would come if we invited them lol. But overall i think its what you want its your shower if you want the guys their have them their.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@LegallyBlondeBride: I don’t think it’s “sexist,” I’ve just always thought it’s a girl thing.  My dad/FFIL/FI/groomsmen would be bored to tears at a bridal shower.  I just always thought it was a thing for the ladies, like the b-party ;o)

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Couples showers are getting to be pretty common now, but I think those are typically more cocktail partyish and don’t involve everyone sitting around for opening presents.  For my shower, only women are invited, but I’m not sure my dad understands that yet.  I think he wants to come, and with 5 daughters, he’s totally comfortable in girlworld.  Its in his community club house, so if he wants to stop by, I’m cool with that.  And I told Fiance to stop by for the last 20 minutes or so.  It’ll be more like he’s come to help clean up and carry the gifts out, but he’ll also get to say a quick hello and thank you to all the guest too.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

other reasons we in my family have for not inviting guys include lingerie allot of time the bride will get gifted wedding night lingerie and toys and if the guy is their that just spoils the fun.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

There were men at our wedding shower, but then again, we didn’t have a traditional shower. Instead of lots of games, it was a murder mystery, and we had tons of desserts instead of a meal.

I see absolutely no harm in inviting men to come along. Being invited doesn’t force them to accept. You could also have something else planned for the men while the women attend the actual shower.

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