Post # 1
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1399 posts
Bumble bee
I posted a little while back about my coworkers and boss fishing for invites and being generally inappropriate. It’s my part-time job at a small company. In my department, there are 4 people besides me. In the other department, there are maybe 5 or 6 people who I almost never see. There are also two receptionists and my boss. I don’t like anyone in my department enough to invite them, and I don’t know the other department or ladies from reception well enough to include them. I do, however, sort of want to invite my boss. Despite her awkward actions at times, she’s genuinely nice and I like her/hanging out with her. And realistically, it couldn’t hurt in terms of getting a nice recommendation when I leave the company (I’m scheduled to move out of the country a few weeks after the wedding, which she knows and has been great about).
So my question is… how do I invite her quietly and tell her that no one else from work is invited and request that she keep this on the DL? Should I site limited capacity (between 4 and 10 other coworkers might sound like very few, but on a guest list of 30, it’s huge… plus some have SOs/families) as my reason for not inviting everyone, and ask that she just be discrete? What words should I use, exactly? Or should I really just scrap the whole idea and not invite her at all?
Thanks in advance, Bees! You guys are always super helpful!
Post # 3
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
On a guest list of 30, I probably wouldn’t invite her, especially given the background of fishing for invites. But, if it would make you happy to have her there the day of, just grab her sometime she’s alone and tell her you’ve finalized the guest list, and unfortunately you can’t invite anyone else from the office, but you’d love it if she could make it and to watch out for her invitation.
That’s how I decided what coworkers to invite – I imagined going around to each table and picturing the people there. Would I be just “meh” or would I be genuinely excited that this person had made the time to come?
Post # 4
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
I’m inviting my boss and supervisor, but nobody else from work. If they have an issue with it, I don’t really care. I’ve worked for my boss longer and I don’t work along side most of these people.
Invite who you want and who you feel should be there.
Post # 5
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883 posts
Busy bee
I would have loved to have invited a lot more people from work, but my venue limit was 100 and once I got past family and friends, there was little wiggle room.
I invited my boss and the Finance manager, whom I have worked for/with for 17 years since we all started here; and I invited the two people that work for me (1 15 years, the other 1 year)
Post # 6
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1399 posts
Bumble bee
@NAvery: I’d be happy if she came. I wouldn’t be unhappy if she didn’t.
@mayflowerbride13: I have been with the company longer than any other employee. For a while it was just me and my boss… then one other girl, who will be moving this month. I don’t work alongside any of my coworkers, actually, so our contact is pretty limited. And their jerks haha.
@dkacerek: Honestly, space is not an issue for me. Nor is the money, really. We’re planning on 30 right now, but could do up to 40 for just a *little* more money… and if I liked any of these people enough, I would. But I’ve got an eyerolling b*tch and someone who makes nasty comments to everyone, I just don’t need those people there stressing me out.
