(Closed) Inviting My Co-Workers to Our Wedding…?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite my coworkers?
    YES: you should invite your coworkers : (7 votes)
    24 %
    NO: it's OK to not invite them : (20 votes)
    69 %
    Other, please see below : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    9952 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Etiquette Snob here… lol

    In truth there is no obligation.

    And infact, the traditional stance on this is one should keep one’s Personal Life seperate from one’s Work Life.

    In so much, as things will happen in your Personal Life that won’t hold you in quite as good a light in your Professional one.

    Examples… Does anyone at the office really need to see your clevage (say you choose a dress that is strapless, maybe a tad low cut) – Or Uncle Bob get drunk – Or you and your honey get a tad amourous on the dance floor towards the end of the night etc ?

    Stuff that goes into their heads, cannot come out.  And like it or not they’ll judge you for it back in the office.

    The exception to the rule is if you have a close friend or two, that you see outside of work, and you know their lips are iron-clad.  Those are REAL Friends and can / should be invited.

    If you are leaving anyhow, this may make no never mind to you…

    BUT then again, you will be looking we assume for a good Review & Referral that you can count on / lean on for the next job / step in your life.

    Hope this helps (some),


    Post # 4
    5660 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    There’s no rule that says you hvae to invite coworkers. I invited a select few that I’ve worked with here for 8 years and am good friends with. Some came and some did not. But for you at this point I wouldn’t bother, just beacuse your husband wants to invite all of his doesn’t mean you have to scramble and invite yours.

    Post # 5
    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would say obviously you don’t HAVE to do anything.  I’m in a similar situation right now, but I hang out with my co-workers outside of work all the time.  Go out to happy hours, have potlucks at their houses, see their kids..  so in my case it would make sense to invite them (except now there is weird cliquey stuff going on and I don’t want that drama).  Do you see them outside of work and know them on a more personal level than just a professional level? If so I would definitely consider it.  More fun loving people that have your back are never a bad addition to a party in my opinion..

    Post # 7
    2347 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @CakeyP:  Personally, I am only inviting a handful of co-workers who I am friends with, NOT b/c they’re my co-workers. 

    I don’t think you have any obligation to invite anyone you don’t want, esp if you have budget/spacial restrictions.

    By The Way, are you from Bergen Co or that’s where the wedding is?  I grew up in Bergen 🙂

    Post # 8
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Both fi and I are inviting select co workers [ones we are somewhat close with, or have known for years] and our bosses/supervisors.

    I wouldn’t say you have to invite your co workers, but I think it would be nice if you’d enjoy them there.


    Post # 10
    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @CakeyP:  We made the rule that if you have co-workers you hang out with outside the work place (I don’t, he has one) then invite them. Otherwise we’re not inviting work people. I don’t think you should feel obligated. If you stopped working there would you ever see these people again?

    Post # 11
    8882 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Darling Husband invited a few of his coworkers.  i did not invite any of mine.  i’ve been with my company about 5 years.


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