- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
So, here’s the deal.
I was not planning on inviting my co-workers to our wedding. My fiance, on the other hand, is inviting almost all of his coworkers (plus guests) to our wedding.
I am not sure if I should reverse my stance and invite my coworkers.
I am past the point of caring about guest counts for the wedding (like, we’re forking out all this $$$ anyway so I just want to close my eyes and get it over with).
A little background: I’ve been at my company for 3 years, it’s the first professional job I got out of college, I’ve been in the same group with roughly the same people for all 3 years. “Coworkers” would be about 6-8 people (including obligatory boss invites) PLUS guests, so about 12-18 people total. This is just my group, my whole company is 100+ people so that’s not happening.
I am still really hesitant about it.
Pros: I like my coworkers, they like me and are excited about the wedding, I feel like I have no one who’s going for me for the wedding so inviting people I know makes me feel better, I avoid awkwardness at work
Con: They didn’t get Save-the-Dates (but knew they went out), extra cost for all the people who respond “yes”, will need to scramble to find addresses for invites, I would like to find a new job next year, worried it might look like a gift grab
These are really flimsy pro’s and con’s (usually I make a pretty good list) so I need a little help.
I think the “right” thing to do is to invite everyone, but then again it’s also an extra cost I wasn’t really counting on. We can afford it, though I really want to keep costs down.
We’re inviting about 130 people right now (sans my coworkers).
I wanted a small wedding (still kinda do) and feel a little uncomfortable inviting mroe people.
I am also worried about costs… inviting 18 additional people will be an extra $2k. Like I said, we’re spending all this money anyway, but it still hurts!
I haven’t sent out invitations yet (haven’t quite finished making them, ahem), so there’s still a little bit of time if I change my mind.
Whether to invite everyone or not has been bothering me more and more as the date approaches.
It’s going to be a scramble to get addresses, but I don’t doubt that it’s possible.
Opinions? Thoughts? Anecdotes? Experiences?
Please try not to be too harsh… I am just very conflicted/confused about this, not trying to be rude or anything. I think I just need some outside opinions.