(Closed) Inviting my long lost family…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Haha I opened this thinking I might get some help with my long lost family, but mine’s a completely different situation.

I think that if your long lost family has done terrible things to you and your family, then they’re not worth inviting. I think ‘terrible things’ is very broad, and may need an outside opinion from someone you are comfortable sharing these things with. It really depends on what they did to you, and if it is something that you can forgive and forget.

But if you really feel that what they have done is that bad, then I think that it’s YOUR day, and you don’t want people there that will drag you down or make you feel bad.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I guess to me it would matter how your mom feels about them coming. As long as neither of you go into this with the expectation that inviting them, regardless of whether or not they come, will change things, I guess you’ll be OK. I’d just be afraid they say yes, and you get excited that things might be repaired, and they get here and nothing changes.

Post # 5
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4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

When’s the last time you saw these other family members/when do you expect you’d see them again? Is it more important to have them at the wedding than other close friends?

Is your wedding date correct? Flying to Alaska from Colombia, in February, would probably keep a lot of your extended family from making the trip.  

Post # 6
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Personally I wouldn’t invite people I didn’t really know. I would much rather have extra friends and family that are close to me.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

If you don’t feel comfortable having them there- don’t invite them. This is YOUR day.

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