(Closed) Inviting myself. Ugh.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I e-mail the hostess?
    Yes, it was probably a mistake and the bride wants you there! : (38 votes)
    86 %
    No, the hostess didn't invite you and it's rude to ask to attend! : (6 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think it would be ok to email since the bride herself invited you, so she must want you there and it’s her party!

    Post # 4
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    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it was probably a mistake, and the bride does want you there!  The hostess is probably just frazzled and forgot – I know my Maid/Matron of Honor has a lot on her plate!  Even if the host intentionally left you off the list (which I doubt), the important thing is that the BRIDE wants you there!  It is her party, so if she invited you, don’t feel werid about going!

    Also, your proposed email wording is perfect – no pressure, and very understanding.  Send it 🙂

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    @Utopia4us:  Thats  a good email……..use it!

    Post # 7
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    9674 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I agree with everyone, the email idea sounds great and it’s well-worded.  🙂

    Post # 8
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Do you know where/when it’s taking place? I know you said you could not just show up, but that’s what I would do. If the bride invited me herself and I had all the information I would just show up. I think your email wording will add more drama to the situation.

    As a side note I’ve read somewhere that according to etiquette it is not necessary that the bride invite the groom’s friend’s wives/girlfriends to her bachelorette party. If you are not as good of friends with the bride maybe that is the rule they followed.

    Post # 9
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    3303 posts
    Sugar bee

    Very good e-mail – send it off and see what happens.

    Post # 11
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    5002 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would just forget about it and not go. Doesn’t seem worth it to me…

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