Post # 1
I’ve been at my job for about two years. It’s a pretty small group, about 20, so FH and I decided to invite them all. Well, we hired a new person and they started today. The day before I mail my invitations. My gut says to invite them, but on the other hand, is it weird since we just met? At my last job, someone got married a few months after I started, didn’t invite me, and my feelings were a little hurt.
Post # 3
I think because you have invited everyone at your office, you should also invite the new person. I think hand-delivering, or adding a little note, would make it a lot less awkward, just to acknowledge that you know it’s a little weird because you just met, but you’ve invited everyone else in the office and you wanted to welcome them. Something to that effect.
I think an invitation with no explanation would be a little confusing and weird.
Post # 4
I’m imagining myself just starting a new job and not knowing anyone… then I get an invite to a wedding from one of my new coworkers 4 days after I meet her. I would think it’s very weird. And now on top of it, they would feel obligated to give a wedding present to someone they hardly know.
Post # 5
I say don’t invite them. at my old job, a co-worker got married about 1 month after I started and they were all invited. I felt a little hurt that I didn’t get to share in the same memories that they talked about, but I understood completely. I’m sure that person will understand! It didn’t even hinder my relationship with this person, either
Post # 6
I’ve never been in this situation, so I don’t have experience, but I do think since everyone else is invited, it would be worth inviting this person. I think hand-delivering it with a comment about it being an opportunity for them to get to know your other co-workers better with a slight admission that it is a little odd, but you would love to get ot know them better is probably the way to go. Especially if these are the kind of co-workers/environment where people will talk about it before/after. It’s hard enough being the new person, now to be the new person and completely left out of an event?
On the other hand, if you don’t WANT to invite them, I don’t think you are obligated to do so.
Post # 7
@kelly105: I was thinking rather the opposite, that if I had started a new job and a coworker dropped by with an invitation to her wedding, but acknowledged that it was weird because we were essentially strangers… I think I would feel like it was a nice and welcoming gesture. Over the next month they would certainly get to know each other, and then it would be a little upsetting to be the only one left out, wouldn’t it?
Post # 8
i am in the situation now that all my coworkers except for myself and one other person have been invited to a coworkers wedding! but she told we are invited to the bachelorette party! myself and this other coworker not invited are the “newbies” since we are interns for one year, so while different than your situation, i think there is more harm in not inviting them than there is in inviting them.
i like @Lida‘s idea
Post # 9
I would love to get a wedding invitation if I just started. Plus, just because you give them an invite, doesn’t mean they’ll come, but at least they have the option to decide. I like the idea of handing it to them and explaining the whole office is invited and you want to include everyone, but maybe say something like please don’t feel like you have to come!
Post # 10
@Mrs.Oat: Well, I generally feel awkward around coworkers to begin with, but I’m an engineer and work with 90% guys. Maybe her situation is different.
Generally, I don’t like the idea of inviting coworkers to a wedding unless you are friends with them outside of work. Or unless you are going to marry said coworker (which is my situation.) =)
Agree to disagree.
Post # 11
This actually happened to me. Three new co-workers started after I had been talking about my wedding. I finally decided to invite all of them. I’m glad I invited two, but one quit after 2 months!!! So she is still invited, but it’s just awkward and I’m a little annoyed that she accepted a position promising to stay…. and we find out it was a temporary job for her while she was looking for her dream job.
You may end up being great friends with the new co-worker. So I would just go ahead and invite her. You never know! 🙂