Post # 1
So I work in a small team that I am inviting to our wedding (there are about 9 of them). We are a very close-knit team (ex. one of our coworkers had a baby that we all joked around and said it was "our" baby.. we always IM each other outside of work about inside jokes).
I had given them the save the dates since December. Well, we just added 3 new assistants to the team in February and my wedding isn’t until October. If the entire team is invited to my wedding (which is a Friday wedding, so basically the entire team is taking a half day off to come to my wedding), do I need to invite these 3 new assistants even if I am not close to them and don’t really work closely with these assistants??
Post # 3
You don’t have to send your invitations for another 5 months. I’d sit back and see how the relationships develop over the next 5 months. Maybe have placeholders for them on the guest list for now – TBD. 🙂 If the three newbies mesh and become and intergral part of the group – you may want them there. If that doesn’t happen – you shouldn’t feel required to invite them – and they should understand and respect that 🙂
I’d maybe lay low of the wedding conversation at work until you come to a decision. You don’t want all 9 of you guys talking about how much fun the wedding is going to be – that would be a little rude. But you also shouldn’t feel like you ‘have’ to invite them – all your guests should be people you want to share your day with.
Kinda a tough one 🙂 But you have some time to think on it! 🙂
Post # 4
I agree with the above poster. It’s your wedding, and therefore your decision on who to invite. If at the time you send out your invitations you feel like they should be there (and you’ve bonded with them) then by all means invite them. They will definitely feel left out if they think they have developed a bond with the whole team and then are the only ones not invited.
On the other hand, if you explain that when you made the guest list they weren’t even working there yet, I think any reasonable person would understand. Maybe not. But no one should ever EXPECT to be invited to someone’s wedding, especially if they haven’t known them for that long.
Post # 5
Definately agree. You can absolutely send invitations to people who didn’t get Save-The-Date Cards – just not the other way around. You aren’t obligated to invite anyone from work – your wedding is a social event after all – not a work function. But if you socialize with your co-workers outside of work, and it sounds like you are pretty close to them, that is different. I wouldn’t send Save-The-Date Cards to the new assistants, and if they are new they shouldn’t expect to be invited. If by August or September when you send invitations it seems like the new assistants are your friends as well as your co-workers, I would definately invite them. If not, then don’t include them and don’t feel bad about it! Luckily you have plenty of time to figure this out.
Post # 6
omg I am in the same boat and finally made a decision. I am on a team also with 3 others. One is a new hire whom I have only known since August. The other two I have known and worked closely with for the past 3 years. I decided that I am only inviting my 2 closer teammates. I agree that people should not expect an invite especially if you don’t know them Some people (well, I would..) feel weird if they were invited after only knowing someone for a short while. I am happy with my decision, but we are NOT talking about it at work!