Post # 1
This thought hasn’t crossed my mind until today… I’m not sure what the proper rule is here, but, is it rude not to include the officiant (and the spouse) at the rehearsal dinner? I’m getting married at a hotel — and we’re having our rehearsal dinner at one of the hotel restaurants, so we will be going to dinner as soon as the rehearsal is over. I don’t know if it’d be awkward to not invite him, since everyone else who is there will be joining? Any thoughts? Not sure if it’d make a difference; our officiant is someone we don’t really know — just a vendor we found at an Open House and ended up hiring.
Post # 2
I thought it was proper etiquette to invite them. But that might be awkward if you don’t know them.
Post # 3
In my experience if the officiant is conducting the rehearsal you invite him. If he isn’t it’s not required.
Post # 4
Our officiant explicitly stated in the contract not to invite them to the dinner or count them in the vendor/reception meal count. They’re a professional ministry officiant though, for what it’s worth. They had all the questions on etiquette for that kind of thing outlined and covered in the contract. If they were a family friend I’d invite them.
Post # 5
I think you have to invite officiant and his/her spouse to wedding, I do not know similiar rule for WD. I think if officiant is with church/temple etc that bride or groom or their family regularly attends, yes, invite to Rehearsal Dinner. Otherwise, no.
Post # 6
From what I’ve heard, most officiants will likely decline to attend your rehearsal dinner as well as your reception. It is polite to extend the invite though regardless of your relationship. Of course, if you abandon ettiquette on this one the only person that will be upset with you is somebody you don’t have a relationship.. who happens to be performing your wedding ceremony within the coming days. I’m sure they would not be offended or unprofessional though!
Post # 7
I did not vote bc I figure yes only if you want to. I know it is customary so I did it but she made some really strange, almost snide comments. So if I had it to do over I might not.
Post # 8
I invited mine to be polite. We don’t know her personally. She thanked me for the invite but politely turned it down. Worked for me. It would have been a little awkward for her anyway not knowing anyone.
Post # 9
Most officiants do decline, but mine didn’t and I wish I had not invited her. I won’t forget a couple of remarks she made that I considered rude and insulting. If you have any doubts then to hell with etiquette, think of yourself and reducing stress. Also my Mother-In-Law was such a pain in the ass about the guest list, so keep in mind also who is paying and whether that person will be difficult about inviting the officiant and guest.
Post # 10
I’m not sure what the etiquette is on this, but our officiant was my bff so he was definitely included in our rehearsal dinner. I think you could probably invite to be nice and polite, and leave it up to them.