(Closed) Inviting old coworkers…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@techie:  I did the same thing.  I invited the 2 girls I worked with there and didn’t invite the rest (they are all guys…it was a 7 person office).  And I didn’t invite my ex-boss.  Well apparently the girls were talking about how they got my STD’s and my ex-boss asked why he didn’t get one and told them to tell me he wants to come too.  Ugh so hard.  Plus this office is out of state…I really never expected him to want to come.  

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m only planning to invite one of my ex coworkers. She is the only one I remained close to after leaving my old work place and moving to a new town, and really the only one I really liked. I don’t see anything wrong with only inviting a few, especially if you feel close to them. I just asked her not to mention it at work.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@techie: My Future Mother-In-Law asked if she could post an ivitation on the bulletin board at her church after we got them. I was like, nooooo! Haha. There’s just too much drama that would unfold if that happened. Gotta love small towns…

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@techie: The church my Future Mother-In-Law goes to is pretty small, but there are some church members that I wouldn’t want intermingling with my guests. There is so much drama in FH’s family. Like, his aunt has been married 4 times, and this aunt tried to kill two of her ex husbands. This aunt has a daughter that goes to church with Future Mother-In-Law. We don’t want the aunt at the wedding, so it’s been pretty hush hush.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think you have some more leeway here since you don’t work there anymore.  It would be more difficult (and some might say improper) to pick and choose among colleagues if you still worked there, but since you don’t work for that company anymore I don’t think you have the same obligations.  It seems natural to me that you would have bonded more with some coworkers than with others.  If you consider those former coworkers to be personal friends, I think it’s fine to invite them but not the others who may not mean anything to you on a personal level.  I would just ask them to be discreet about it, and tell them you want to prevent hurt feelings among the others who aren’t getting invites (and it would probably be to their advantage to keep it quiet, anyway, since it might create tension for them if the other workers knew about it).  How big is the place you used to work for?

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@techie: I’ve only met the woman twice and at first glance, you’d never know she plotted the murders of two husbands. But if you get to talking to her, it really comes out. She’s all about some attention. FH was born with a serious heart problem and wasn’t supposed to live. She likes to credit his survival to her being at the hospital with him.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@techie: My thoughts exactly. The very first time I met the woman she grilled me about my family, my life plans and if I truly appreciated my FH because he could have died and other girls just took him for granted.

I’m sorry I threadjacked by the way!

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