Post # 1

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Sugar bee
I left my old company back in October, and I’m considering inviting some of the old coworkers. We’ve bonded over the years and they were like a second family. Would it be rude to invite a select few? I wasn’t as close with everyone, but I feel weird playing favorites.
Post # 3

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Newbee
@techie: I did the same thing. I invited the 2 girls I worked with there and didn’t invite the rest (they are all guys…it was a 7 person office). And I didn’t invite my ex-boss. Well apparently the girls were talking about how they got my STD’s and my ex-boss asked why he didn’t get one and told them to tell me he wants to come too. Ugh so hard. Plus this office is out of state…I really never expected him to want to come.
Post # 4

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Sugar bee
@Eliann: Ugh! Always so rude when people invite themselves. How awkward!
My old office is out of state too. I was figuring if I did have to invite someone to be polite, it’s unlikely that they would come anyway.
Post # 5

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Honey bee
I’m only planning to invite one of my ex coworkers. She is the only one I remained close to after leaving my old work place and moving to a new town, and really the only one I really liked. I don’t see anything wrong with only inviting a few, especially if you feel close to them. I just asked her not to mention it at work.
Post # 6

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Sugar bee
@SouthernGirl: I suppose I could do that! Asking them not to talk about it at work. In the past, coworkers would post invites on the break room bulletin board.
Post # 7

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Honey bee
@techie: My Future Mother-In-Law asked if she could post an ivitation on the bulletin board at her church after we got them. I was like, nooooo! Haha. There’s just too much drama that would unfold if that happened. Gotta love small towns…
Post # 8

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Sugar bee
@SouthernGirl: Oi! That happened to my friend…tiny church in Hartford. She had some interesting guests…
Post # 9

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Honey bee
@techie: The church my Future Mother-In-Law goes to is pretty small, but there are some church members that I wouldn’t want intermingling with my guests. There is so much drama in FH’s family. Like, his aunt has been married 4 times, and this aunt tried to kill two of her ex husbands. This aunt has a daughter that goes to church with Future Mother-In-Law. We don’t want the aunt at the wedding, so it’s been pretty hush hush.
Post # 10

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Sugar bee
@SouthernGirl: Eeek…yeah. I get it. People don’t know how to keep the drama out of a wedding. -_- What better venue to draw attention! The aunt sounds frightening.
Post # 11

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Bumble bee
I think you have some more leeway here since you don’t work there anymore. It would be more difficult (and some might say improper) to pick and choose among colleagues if you still worked there, but since you don’t work for that company anymore I don’t think you have the same obligations. It seems natural to me that you would have bonded more with some coworkers than with others. If you consider those former coworkers to be personal friends, I think it’s fine to invite them but not the others who may not mean anything to you on a personal level. I would just ask them to be discreet about it, and tell them you want to prevent hurt feelings among the others who aren’t getting invites (and it would probably be to their advantage to keep it quiet, anyway, since it might create tension for them if the other workers knew about it). How big is the place you used to work for?
Post # 12

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Honey bee
@techie: I’ve only met the woman twice and at first glance, you’d never know she plotted the murders of two husbands. But if you get to talking to her, it really comes out. She’s all about some attention. FH was born with a serious heart problem and wasn’t supposed to live. She likes to credit his survival to her being at the hospital with him.
Post # 13

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Sugar bee
@GreenGables: Thanks…yeah, deep down I know it’s fine, but I just wanted to be sure I wasn’t committing a faux pas.
@SouthernGirl: ::facepalm::
Post # 14

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Honey bee
@techie: My thoughts exactly. The very first time I met the woman she grilled me about my family, my life plans and if I truly appreciated my FH because he could have died and other girls just took him for granted.
I’m sorry I threadjacked by the way!
Post # 15

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Sugar bee
@SouthernGirl: Not at all 🙂