(Closed) inviting only one coworker?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@skschick:  I think there is a big difference between only inviting one coworker and inviting like half the group and leaving just a few people out. If you feel that close with one person then I say invite her! I’m like you and inviting only one person from work and there were two weddings in our office last year that only 2-3 people got invited to and no one was offended at all.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you can invite her. But when you do, maybe explain to her that she’s the only one invited. Then she can avoid any awkward conversations.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

When I got married last year I was working in a huge school that had a small program of about 10 teachers/assistants all together – I was working in that program. (It may have been a few more or a few less but I can’t really remember right now.) Anyway, I was close with some and barely spoke to others, but the one teacher whose classroom I worked in 7 hours a day, she was the only one I invited. I would speak to her about personal things and we became friends. It’s not to say I wasn’t close with some other women, but I was the closest with her. I chose to invite only her and it was 100% fine with everybody. I don’t think anyone really expected to be invited and they all bought me a really nice gift the weekend before the wedding! Had I invited 3 or 4 women and left out the rest, I think that would’ve been awkward. But because it was just the 1 it went over fine. 

ETA: I agree that you should probably mention to her casually that she is the only one invited out of the office staff so she doesn’t make a comment to someone and then there is awkwardness or tension. I think I also casually mentioned it to the woman who I invited too one day over lunch.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I just invited one co-worker. I gave him the invitation when we were having coffee. All is still well at work.

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