Post # 1
We are getting married abroad and then having a 75 ppl gathering to celebrate our marriage (it would be shorter, but we cant avoid the inevitable, both our families are huge). While I am doing my best to stick with our guest list rules (such a drag btw), I really am having issues with my coworkers. I have a few coworkers that I get a long with, they are pretty cool, but never have an outside relationship. However, out of all of them there is one who I totally love! she and I are close at work (though we have not hanged out much outside). She and I get along, we share personal things, she even lended me some vintage luggages for our engagement photos, shes the best. I hate that due to the rules, theres that none or all since of course if she goes my other coworkers may find out (mind you, by that time, I may be leaving my job due to other job opportunities, but definitely staying in touch with her). I would really like to invite her! but am afraid that probably the others may get recented? any one has faced this issue?
Post # 3
@skschick: I think there is a big difference between only inviting one coworker and inviting like half the group and leaving just a few people out. If you feel that close with one person then I say invite her! I’m like you and inviting only one person from work and there were two weddings in our office last year that only 2-3 people got invited to and no one was offended at all.
Post # 4
I think you can invite her. But when you do, maybe explain to her that she’s the only one invited. Then she can avoid any awkward conversations.
Post # 5
When I got married last year I was working in a huge school that had a small program of about 10 teachers/assistants all together – I was working in that program. (It may have been a few more or a few less but I can’t really remember right now.) Anyway, I was close with some and barely spoke to others, but the one teacher whose classroom I worked in 7 hours a day, she was the only one I invited. I would speak to her about personal things and we became friends. It’s not to say I wasn’t close with some other women, but I was the closest with her. I chose to invite only her and it was 100% fine with everybody. I don’t think anyone really expected to be invited and they all bought me a really nice gift the weekend before the wedding! Had I invited 3 or 4 women and left out the rest, I think that would’ve been awkward. But because it was just the 1 it went over fine.
ETA: I agree that you should probably mention to her casually that she is the only one invited out of the office staff so she doesn’t make a comment to someone and then there is awkwardness or tension. I think I also casually mentioned it to the woman who I invited too one day over lunch.
Post # 6
I just invited one co-worker. I gave him the invitation when we were having coffee. All is still well at work.