(Closed) Inviting OOT family to shower you know won’t come?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Invite OOT family who def won't come?
    Yes, at least let them know you are extending offer : (8 votes)
    80 %
    No, they will wonder if I'm expecting them to spend money to travel : (2 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m having this exact same dilemma with my shower as well as my engagement party. My future ILs are throwing an engagement party for us in MT (my FI’s family all lives here, and we just moved here), while my family mostly lives in OH. I decided to send out invites to my extended family, since an eparty is not a gift giving event, I thought they’d like the gesture.

    Now, I’m torn on the shower, which will be held in OH. I have a couple of aunts/uncles who are not in OH (but are originally from there), and I don’t know if I should invite them! Not to mention the MT relatives, who I’m sure won’t travel, but might be offended since an eparty invite was extended to my relatives in OH.

    Too many decisions! lol

    Post # 4
    4284 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    In our family we invite Out of Town guests to the shower. It is a rude thing if you don’t. We never expect them to make the hike to attend, or expect a gift. But in my family it’s sort of a shun if you don’t get an invite to the shower but get one to the wedding.

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