(Closed) Inviting Out of Towners to Bridal Shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I definitely had the same problem. A lot of my family and even friends are out of town from where the shower will be held. I still invited them because I didn’t want to offend even though I was pretty sure they wouldn’t be able to make it. Besides, you never know!

Post # 4
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Same thing as me half my family is 4 hours away but they’re all invited to the shower anyways. We were always invited to theirs, its just a curtosey thing 🙂

Post # 5
2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I only invited a few Out of Town women for the same reason- I didn’t want to seem gift-grabby.  The ones I did invite were those who would be offended if they didn’t get an invitation, like my aunt, and had already planned on sending a gift.

Post # 6
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why not invite OOT? Don’t decide for them… give them the option of coming! Extend the invitation if they’re people you would like there. The logistics of getting there are up to them, if they decide to come. 

Post # 7
516 posts
Busy bee

I say go ahead and invite.  I live in California and my best friend (who got married) lives in Michigan.  I was a bridesmaid and surprised when I found out that I hadn’t been invited to the shower.

My friend’s reasoning was that she didn’t want us to feel obligated to travel more than once, so she left us off of the guest list for the shower . . . but I felt like an invite would have been nice.

Post # 8
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@rachelb44:  I say invite, but follow up with a personal note or call that you don’t expect themt o come but wanted them to know you were thinking of them.

Post # 9
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I said this in another thread. I was a bridesmaid in a wedding last summer. Since I lived in a different state, I was not invited to the shower, and didn’t even know about it until I saw pictures on Facebook. I was not able to attend, but had I been invited/known about it, I would have sent a gift. I will admit, I was hurt I wasn’t considered at all.

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