(Closed) Inviting People I don't Know

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Definitely not!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I don’t think so, personally. We had some people there we didn’t know, but they were important to either set of parents. It’s not like it’s your mom’s good friend that you’ve hardly met because she lives far-these are people who chat with your mom only through work.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

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Joce88:  Nope. And your mom needs to stop discussing your wedding plans with her clients. Problem solved. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

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Joce88:  Did your mum get any friends invites? If so she can use them to invite her clients. Otherwise no you don’t need to invite them. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I normally do not think it is a big deal to invite people you don’t know but who are just friends of the parents of the bride or groom. But the fact is that you were paying for the wedding, not your mom. It is not her obligation to, but by the same token it is not your obligation to invite whoever. And I find it nervy that people expected to be invited, and even now they thought they should have been invited? Were they interested in becoming part of your life? I doubt it but even if they wanted to do so they still could without being a wedding guest. 

Wedding planning can be hard. There were very few people that I had to leave out and now I wish that I had left out certain people. But if you do not invite everyone then there are people who think they were entitled to be there. In reality a wedding is about 2 people getting married, and anyone who wants to be a part of it should do so bc they are happy for those 2 people. And if they cannot be invited they should care enough about the couple to understand. JMO

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

 

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Joce88:  Nope. I think this is your wedding. I had to talk with my mom about not inviting people who i didnt know, just because of the costs and I really want people who are there to really know me and to really be able to share this moment. 100 people is a smaller wedding and you want the people around you to be people you want to share this moment. They may feel upset, but try to see if your mom can let them know that there is limited space and that not everyone could be invited.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Umm no. And even if you were having a big wedding and had some for them, if your mom does not hang out with them outside of work they should not expect to be invited. I’m only inviting one of my mom’s coworkers because she’s more like a family friend and our families we on vacation together one year. I would never expect to be invited to any of my hairdressers family events, no matter how much we talk about personal stuff during appointments. It’s your mom’s job to talk and be friendly with her clients, that’s how she gets repeat customers. That does not make them best friends. People are so presumpuous. Have your mom tell them sorry it’s an intimate affair, family Nd close friends of the bride and groom only. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Joce88:  heck no! 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

No. Your wedding..not your mom’s wedding.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Joce88:  I wouldn’t. I did feel pressure to invite some friends of my folks and it was not ideal. I would advise others not to do it if that’s how they are feeling. For instance, one of the couples didn’t even recognize me and when they did, called me by my sister’s name. WTF?! No. GTFO.

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