(Closed) Inviting people just for the ceremony

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@cabarnes15:  There is no polite way to tell someone to take time out of their lives, dress up, come to celebrate your relationship, but that you aren’t willing to host them in thanks.

Post # 4
8444 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m not sure there is a way to invite them to the ceremony but not the reception without offending them.  Maybe you could just show the video in your class with them and have a small celebration with your students then?

Post # 5
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

maybe you can emphasize that it is a small wedding mosltly for adults. But that you are so happy to share the video and pass around the photo album afterwards if that makes the situation better and they can celebrate with you then as you begin your newly wed life… 

I agree with others that although I know it would be great to have them there for the ceremony I don’t think there is a way to not invite them afterwards…  I think if you invite them they would have to also be invited to the reception. Hmmm… maybe other people have other ideas 🙂


Post # 6
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

If your ceremony and reception are in the same place then I don’t really think there’s a polite or a graceful way to do this. You could try doing a live video stream for the kids, though?

Post # 7
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I wouldn’t do that since it can offend some people. I would however show pictures and bring cake 😛 for them!

Post # 8
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I went to a teacher’s wedding ceremony once. She just told people the week before the wedding that if we wanted to see her as a bride, we could come to the church and watch her go in. it was fun because the guests were already inside and when they heard a bunch of students outside start cheering they knew she’d arrived!

I got married outside in a public park so I did the same thing with a few people the week before – just said ‘hey, you’re welcome to come and watch the ceremony if you like!’ some people did but none of them stayed or tried to stay for the rest of the evening. I think it’s a perfectly nice thing to do, just don’t overthink it and leave it til the last minute to actually ask them – that way they understand its not an official ‘invitation’ for the whole event and leaves you time to change your mind if you want to.

Post # 9
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@cabarnes15:  I’d do a specail party as a class. bring a small ‘wedding’ cake and punch and what not.

Post # 10
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

There is no polite way to invite people to a ceremony and not to the reception.  Don’t invite them.

Post # 11
5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Even if you tell them its ceremony only, when they see a bunch of guests going into the cocktail area, they won’t realize “hey, thats not for me” they may just assume plans changed. 

I agree with others, that celebrating with your class with cake and perhaps showing pictures or a video of your ceremony will be meaningful. 

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