Post # 1
I’m a teacher and I’d like to invite my students to my wedding (a few have asked me if they are allowed to come!) but inviting them (there are 10 – I’m a special education teacher) and their parents will add a lot to my reception. This is my second year teaching and I had these students last year during my first year (I followed them up to the next grade), so they are pretty special to me… it would be just as special to me to have them there as it be would for them to go to their teacher’s wedding.
My ceremony and reception are at the same place so I know that’s a little tricky – there is a cocktail party in between. I was thinking I could make it clear in their invitation that I’d like them to come to just the ceremony, but I don’t know how to do that and still sound polite.
Honestly, if it’s going to be really awkward, I just won’t invite them. I thought I would come here to see if anyone else has been able to pull this off?
Post # 3
@cabarnes15: There is no polite way to tell someone to take time out of their lives, dress up, come to celebrate your relationship, but that you aren’t willing to host them in thanks.
Post # 4
I’m not sure there is a way to invite them to the ceremony but not the reception without offending them. Maybe you could just show the video in your class with them and have a small celebration with your students then?
Post # 5
maybe you can emphasize that it is a small wedding mosltly for adults. But that you are so happy to share the video and pass around the photo album afterwards if that makes the situation better and they can celebrate with you then as you begin your newly wed life…
I agree with others that although I know it would be great to have them there for the ceremony I don’t think there is a way to not invite them afterwards… I think if you invite them they would have to also be invited to the reception. Hmmm… maybe other people have other ideas 🙂
Post # 6
If your ceremony and reception are in the same place then I don’t really think there’s a polite or a graceful way to do this. You could try doing a live video stream for the kids, though?
Post # 7
I wouldn’t do that since it can offend some people. I would however show pictures and bring cake 😛 for them!
Post # 8
I went to a teacher’s wedding ceremony once. She just told people the week before the wedding that if we wanted to see her as a bride, we could come to the church and watch her go in. it was fun because the guests were already inside and when they heard a bunch of students outside start cheering they knew she’d arrived!
I got married outside in a public park so I did the same thing with a few people the week before – just said ‘hey, you’re welcome to come and watch the ceremony if you like!’ some people did but none of them stayed or tried to stay for the rest of the evening. I think it’s a perfectly nice thing to do, just don’t overthink it and leave it til the last minute to actually ask them – that way they understand its not an official ‘invitation’ for the whole event and leaves you time to change your mind if you want to.
Post # 9
@cabarnes15: I’d do a specail party as a class. bring a small ‘wedding’ cake and punch and what not.
Post # 10
There is no polite way to invite people to a ceremony and not to the reception. Don’t invite them.
Post # 11
Even if you tell them its ceremony only, when they see a bunch of guests going into the cocktail area, they won’t realize “hey, thats not for me” they may just assume plans changed.
I agree with others, that celebrating with your class with cake and perhaps showing pictures or a video of your ceremony will be meaningful.