(Closed) Inviting single/newly dating couples with a guest??

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who should be invited with a guest?
    Invite only couples living together or engaged/long term relationships with a guest : (8 votes)
    67 %
    Invite only couples with a guest whether or not they have been together very long : (1 votes)
    8 %
    Invite everyone with a guest : (3 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We tried to do plus one’s for everyone over the age of 18. We didn’t for myh 80 year old aunt and another aunt I have been in contact much with we didn’t. But pretty much everyone else we allowed a plus one. It just plain sucks going to a wedding by yourself. Especially if you don’t know very many people.

    Post # 4
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    624 posts
    Busy bee

    Because most of our guest list is in a marriage or living together, we gave the few single folks a +1 and I really don’t imagine them using it. 

    I know other rules include they get a guest if they are engaged, living together or have been together for quiet some time.

    Post # 5
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    my wedding is extremely small, i can’t even invite all of the family that i would like to. therefore, i’m not allowing dates unless they’ve been together for a very long time, like living together status. it’s not in my budget, there’s not enough room at my venue, and they’ll just have to deal with it.

    Post # 6
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    336 posts
    Helper bee

    We’re only giving people a +1 if we know them and they are in a serious relationship or engaged/living together. We’re cutting out family, I’m not going to cut out more family for +1s that I don’t know!

    Post # 7
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Basically, if they are in a serious relationship, we gave them a +1, or if it was someone who wouldn’t know many other people at the wedding, like an old university pal.

    Post # 8
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    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I am also doing an across the board +1 – I know that a lot of Bee’s are putting restrictions on their +1s like been together for over a year, living together, engaged, or married!

    However, I don’t want my friends to feel like some people’s relationships mean more than theirs and I want everyone to feel comfortable so that they can have a good time!

    That being said we have met the majority of our guests SO’s as we are having a small wedding!

    Post # 9
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    1573 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I told my friends upfront it was a small wedding so no dates unless a guest backed out

    Post # 10
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We gave our guests a plus one, knowing that they wouldn’t actually bring someone unless they were dating.

    We only had, maybe 4 people bring a “guest”, like a newer boyfriend. But we only had 3 tables of friends so it wasn’t a big deal.

    Post # 12
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    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    We’re doing a mostly across-the-board plus one for our friends, because we know they aren’t goign to use it unless it matters.  The friends I’ve talked to who are single said they wouldn’t bother bringing anyone when I TOLD them they’d be allowed a date.  It’s sort of a college reunion for our crowd and tons of our friends are invited.

     

    Post # 13
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    It’s really up to you – you don’t have to give anyone a plus-one, but it’s always a nice gesture. I would analyze each guest individually to asses their particular situation. Also if you have more than one guest who is iffy, but those guests are friends wiht each other – you can x out a whole group of people from having plus-one’s because they are sort of each other’s. If that makes any sense.

    We are doing that – my FH has about 4 single guy friends who date people occasionally off and on, so I’m sure they would be ABLE to conjur up a date, but since they are friends with each other they’re all getting invited without one.

    Bottom line is etiquette actually states you don’t have to give anyone a plus-one because it is your wedding, not a night on the town. It is expensive and intimate – you don’t want just anyone coming.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I can only think of a few friends who aren’t married/engaged/in a serious relationship.  For those, we will probably give them a plus 1, just so they have the option of bringing someone.  I have received “single” invites before (this was way before I met my Fiance, and I was not in a serious relationship at the time), and I was totally comfortable.  I knew lots of people at the wedding, and there were lots of other singles to mingle with.  I think it depends on the demographics of your guests.  If there are 99% couples, then I think you should give your single guests the option to bring someone.

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    When I’ve been invited alone to a wedding, I’ve always had other friends there and so it didn’t matter. That’s pretty much how I am determining who gets a +1, since I don’t think it’s my responsibility to sponsor a date night (but I want my single friends to have fun, too). Spouses, fiances, and long-term significant others are invited; flavors of the month are not (unless my single friend won’t know anyone else there).

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