(Closed) Inviting Some but not all of a Family Unit

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Are you inviting kids from other families? We are doing over 18 that might work for you if you dont have anyone else under 18 invited.

Post # 4
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree the 18+ might be a good way to go.

I will just add that if my older brother were invited to a wedding for a relative and me and my sister were not, I would be offended.

Post # 6
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hi There!

I’m having the same issue! I planned on inviting my step-mom’s sister and husband but not their kids (older with their own families). I really enjoy one of the cousins and her family, but couldn’t remember her brother’s name. Both my parents are divorced and remarried so the step-family is making the gust list GROW! I think I’ll end up talking to my dad about it and maybe my step-mom and dad will offer to pay the difference for inviting the step-family. Good luck to you! Please keep us posted on what you did!

Post # 7
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

if you’re having others under 18, you really should invite them. it would be different if they were grown and had their own families, but it just doesn’t seem appropriate to invite the parents and only 1 child out of 3 unless you’re going with the blanket-rule of no one under 18 (no exceptions!)

Post # 8
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you’d be okay to just invite the aunt and uncle and none of their children.  But I think if you are going to invite the daughter than you have to invite her brothers since they all live at home together.  Putting myself in the shoes of the brothers, I’d be very hurt and offended to be excluded from the invite.

Post # 9
1088 posts
Bumble bee

Hmmm. . .that’s a tough call.  If you are planning on doing 18 and older, that would be ok.  The issue with that is all of the other aunt’s and uncle’s kids from your step mom’s side that are over the age of 18. 

If the guest list is getting out of control, you may want to keep it simple. 


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