- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I know this has been asked 100 times already, but I couldn’t find anything pertaining to mine and SO’s particular situation. We were engaged in February this year, and his family (namely his snake of a mother) told us two days after that they would not be helping with anything to do with the wedding.
My mother makes barely above minimum wage and is giving $5k. My father was unemployed most of last year and will still be contributing a like sum. I feel relatively comfortable inviting aunts and uncles of my family because I am in very close contact with my father’s brothers’ families, but I’m only in any kind of contact with two of my mother’s sisters (of 8 siblings). The rest I haven’t seen in spanses of 2 years to 12. Do I invite people I haven’t seen and don’t even have any contact with just to save offending them? Does it matter if I offend them if myself and my mother don’t even talk to them?
Then, of course, there’s SO’s family. He has 3-4 aunts and uncles on each side of his family who, even though we lived in the same city as them for 4 years, we saw at most once a year. He wants to invite his godmother and her husband; that’s fine. Am I then obligated to invite the rest of his extended family (who we both really can’t stand; they’re uncouth, rude and generally ignorant) just because we’re inviting one aunt who likely won’t even come?
We had planned initially to keep the RSVP’s to 50, and though I don’t think many of these aunts and uncles will come, we really don’t want to invite them in case they DO decide to. We don’t want them there, but we’re afraid of offending his parents and his other family.
Sorry for the rambling. I have another major, major issue to add to this later, but I’ll wait for some replies and deal with this one issue at a time. Thanks Bees!