(Closed) Inviting some people with guests and some without

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I respectfully disagree. Most of my family will not be getting a guest. Both myself and my FH come from bigger families and to give everyone a guest would push us way over budget. My family all know each other, I am not worried about them being lonely or not having anyone to talk to. And I don’t think you are obligated to come, I have been to lots of weddings of varies family members and I know that some of my other cousins didn’t attend. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I feel it’s more important to invite non-relatives with a guest, since the relatives have the other relatives that they know and friends likely don’t.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m sorry, I disagree.  At a family wedding you will know plenty of people.  Plus ones for single (not married, not engaged) guests can really drive up costs.  It’s great if the bride & groom have the budget and space to allow for guests of guests, but not everyone does.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your rationale is faulty. If you think that the friends don’t need a guest because they know each other,then  neither do the relatives. Surely you also know each other?

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I also disagree. We have the opposite train of thought. All of our family members know each other, therefore those that aren’t in a serious relationship are not getting plus ones, where as our friends who are single are getting plus ones. We are doing this because many of our friends do not know each other and I don’t want them coming to the wedding alone with no one there that they know, but the family members will know plenty of people there to still have a good time. It’s also on a case by case basis when deciding who gets the plus one and who doesn’t.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i think everyone should be invited with a guest

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m with the majority, which goes against what you posted.  Family knows family … why should they need to bring a stranger to my wedding?  You always have the ability to decline the invitation.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think that you’re anymore obligated to go as a relative than you are as a friend.

It’s not about you, it’s about the couple. If they prefer to only have people they know at the wedding, that is their decision! Fiance and I are inviting both halves of couples we know well, but if you’re single, I’m sorry. I’m not buying dinner for some random person to come when you’ll know 10 or 20 other people at the wedding!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

So, you don’t talk to your family at all? I find it weird that you feel you will have no one to talk to.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think depending on the age – everyone should have a guest. 21 & over should be given the courtesy of having a guest invited. I know for me, when it’s family they usally opt to not bring a guest. But when it’s friends, it’s kind of expected… especially if your friends aren’t all local.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@cammie62: Oh wow. You didn’t mention before you had a boyfriend of 10 years. In that case, i would be sending a plus one with your invite. Maybe mention it to them?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think cousins, aunts, etc are any more “obligated” to come to a wedding than friends of the bride or groom so you should have to give a +1 to a completely single guest. That said, we invited the significant others of all of our guests, even if they have just been dating a couple months; if they are official, they are getting an invite.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cammie62:  I agree … you left out a BIG piece of your rant.  Yes, if you’ve been with your Boyfriend or Best Friend for 10 years and you’re coming from out of town, it would be expected that you could bring a guest.  I would probably mention it to your sister (see what she says).

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