Post # 17
If you are going to be making a line, make the line at spouses and those engaged to be married, since they are virtually the same thing. Just because a girl isn’t actually married to him yet, doesn’t mean that their commitment to each other is any less than that of a married couple.
I’m not trying to say that you are a rude person by any means, I just think that if you are going to be inviting spouses, you should invite this girl even though you don’t care for her. I know how stressful the guest list is. We all have people on there we wish we didn’t have to invite, but invite to make our fiance happy. Don’t worry, at the end of the day, you won’t even notice whether or not she is even there. You never know, maybe inviting her and having her share that special day with you and your fiance will improve your relationship with her.
Also, don’t be afraid to tell your bartender (discreetly) to cut her off if she is getting out of control.
Post # 19
you must invite her, sorry. but on the plus side, you will not notice her on your wedding day – you have bigger things to worry about. And if you do, what the heck, tell her to be quiet. you can always blame wedding stress after the fact, haha
Post # 20
@kittaychi – no she’s not really a bitch. moreso, she has to have all the attention, and if you don’t talk to her she makes this big dramatic mess that everyone in the world is mad at her and she didn’t do anything wrong and blah blah blah. She has to be invited to EVERYTHING, and be in on every little secret about everyone all the time, and she’s so easily hurt and offended that she makes everyone she knows guilt trip about her hurt feelings, even though most of us just know it’s a show, and she’s super controlling. It’s so silly.
yup… it’s definitely hard. My fiance isn’t the biggest fan of her either, so he wouldn’t be upset if we didn’t invite her (come to think of it, none of his guy friends like their friends fiance haha)..
I kinda want to hope she won’t come simply because she’s in NY and my wedding is in MN and it’s less than two months before her own wedding…but i think she might anyway.
Post # 21
Well I highly doubt she will be able to be the center of attention at someone else’s wedding! And if she tries, I’m sure one of your girls will put her in her place.
Post # 22
it sounds like she’d cause more drama if she wasn’t invited than if she came…i think that if you invite her fiance, you have to invite her
Post # 23
i think its pretty hard to invite one and not the other. i had to invite people who i didn’t really want to and at the end of it day, it didn’t really matter because 1. i didnt see or even notice them 2. them being there did not really affect me either way