(Closed) Inviting someone who isn’t a BM to get ready with us on the day of?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would. I’m sure she understands that you want to keep the wedding party small. She’d probably be very happy to get ready with you guys.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think she would be flattered and would take you up on your offer in a heartbeat. I doubt that she expected you to ask her to be in the wedding party. Depsite all the drama posts we read here, most people aren’t like that.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s great!  It’s up to them if they want to join you or not.  I read in a wedding and went to visit the bride before hand.  Recently, a friend had a very small wedding party and I went to see her, too.  Maybe she will just come by like that instead of getting ready, but I would leave it up to her what she wants to do.  If she’s like me, she’ll be flattered to be included!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I think she’d be flattered and excited to be part of it. Because we had a Destination Wedding, our “bridal suite” was a 6 bedroom chalet so I didn’t just have my BMs with me but also their SOs, my parents, and a couple of random friends (who didn’t know anyone else and were staying in the chalet) while we got ready. It was awesome fun and meant there were lots of people around to give jobs to 🙂

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I’m sure she’d appreciate it- invite away!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think that you should ask her to be there with you, she will probably be happy to be there. It’s really cute that she wanted to match your sister and the fact that she put that much thought into what she was going to wear I’m sure that she would appreciate the invite. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

A friend of mine who recently got married invited me to get ready with her and her side of the wedding party even though I wasn’t a bridesmaid, and I was so flattered and happy she had asked.

It wasn’t awkward at all for me – She had chosen her absolute besties (and FI’s sister) to be in her bridal party, which I completely understood. I thought it was a really sweet sentiment to ask me over since we had grown closer in the time she had been planning her wedding, and it made me feel really valued as her friend.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Invite her!

I invited FI’s step sister….I debated having her as a bridesmaid, but have so much drama with his sister, that it would have made things horrendous…she understands and we’ve tried to involve her in other ways (she’s doing our ring warming, etc). She will be getting ready with us, as will FI’s mom…they were both so happy and flattered when I invited them 🙂

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