(Closed) Inviting the Extended Step Family

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

You could do like my husband did and tell them they are but send no invite!  I don’t exactly suggest that method though.

Maybe to keep your small wedding and avoid the drama, split the number up and make them decide.

If you want your small wedding, then do it.  While we did end up with about 50-60 guests, our guest list was filled with a bunch of people neither of us knew.  Don’t let them bully you.


Post # 4
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Book a venue that will hold the number of people you want at your wedding. Then you can honestly say that your venue cannot accomodate all the people she would like to invite.

Post # 5
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think this is one of those situations where the less information you give, the better. You don’t have to tell her that you’re inviting your stepdad’s family, just explain that you are trying to keep it a small, intimate wedding and you’d prefer not to have people there that you don’t really know.

We are inviting FI’s stepmom’s family because we absolutely know they won’t come, minus one of her brothers who we actually know well and like. Her other siblings and parents live in FL and the Dominican Republic and don’t even know us, so it’s easy to just invite them and know they won’t come.

Post # 6
427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with the less information you give the better.  It’s understandable that you want to invite your stepfather’s family.  You were young when they got married so you were able to grow up with his family.  I think the fact that you can’t remember your stepmother’s family by name means alot.  Meeting someone a handfull of times doesn’t mean you have to invite them to a wedding.  Probably easier said than done but I would stick to what you want.

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