(Closed) Inviting the FI’s ex: to do or not to do?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should we invite her?
    Yes--go for it. Especially if there is nothing between her and your FI. : (6 votes)
    8 %
    No. She is no longer a part of his life--she has no right to be at his wedding. : (69 votes)
    86 %
    Other--I will explain below. : (5 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 17
    6996 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i’m inviting a friend, i wouldnt call him an ex because it was never anything serious and we were best friends prior to the “fling” and have been best friends since. Fiance is personally a little uncomfortable with it but understands that he has been a family friend for a long time and it was right after highschool, so wayyyy before Fiance came around,

    Post # 18
    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    First, why would her feelings get hurt when it’s clear that they drifted apart. Second, who cares if the ex gets upset about it.

    If an ex isn’t also YOUR friend then they have no business being at the wedding.

    Post # 19
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    forgetting the ex bit i dont understand why you would invite someone to your wedding that you have no real friendship with and your Fiance no longer speaks to


    Post # 20
    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Don’t feel guilty if she invited you to hers, that’s like you buying her a gift just because she got you one 😉

    Post # 21
    2790 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t think I could do this. It would bug me. Like many PP’s have mentioned also, if she wasn’t an ex would you even be inviting her anyways. I don’t really get the inviting someone just because they invited you to their wedding.

    Post # 22
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Unless the exes are a permanent part of your life (due to children only), they have no business being invited to your wedding, and even then it would be awkward for everyone involved, as well as for other guests, which will put a damper on the event. They are a part of your past (and not your present) for a reason.

    Post # 23
    3638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    It’s not a case of her being an ex or not, that is beside the point.

    You aren’t friends, don’t talk on a regular basis etc. So she doesn’t get an invite. I’m sure that there are many other people that your Fiance knew for a long time who aren’t being invited because they aren’t a current part of your life. 

    Post # 24
    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Not only is she an ex, but it doesn’t seem like either of you really speak to her regularly or anything. I wouldn’t invite her.

    Post # 25
    923 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’d also say no – I considered saying go for it, because she did invite you to hers, but when it comes down to it, neither of you are that close with her.  I know personally, I couldn’t deal with having an ex at my wedding.

    Post # 26
    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    The only reason I could think of to invite FI’s ex to the wedding would be to show off the lovely affair I put on which is selfish and horrible.  If you are not close to her and your Fiance doesn’t care either way, I’d say that’s an easy guest to cross off the list.


    Post # 27
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    If she was someone else that one of you knew  a long time ago, would you invite her? I wouldn’t. We didn’t invite people that we aren’t in touch with anymore.

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