(Closed) Inviting the new girlfriend

posted 5 years ago in Guests
  • poll: How should I word the Groomsman's invitation?

    Groomsman & New girlfriend

    Groomsman & Guest

  • Post # 2
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I would put the girlfriends name since they’re together at the moment. They’ll appreciate the gesture. If they do break up, I’m sure he’ll let you know and you can put guest on the escort card. but hopefully they’re still happily dating! This question could be asked for almost every couple you’re inviting, I wouldn’t stress 😊

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    If it was anyone other than a very close friend, I would answer, “& Guest.” In this case though, I don’t see a problem with putting her name on the invite as it has been a few months of dating. I agree with PP, you are close enough that should things change, he would easily let you know. 

    Post # 4
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    Newbee

    I would go with “& guest” – unless the couple was living together or have been together for a while. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee

    I’ve been with my Fiance for 5 years and we still always get “& guest” on invites. It doesn’t bother me at all. 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I would go with their name. If people break up then they know you don’t expect them to still bring their ex. My BILs invite went out to him and his then wife. They officially split a few days after receiving the invite but he understood that our invitation wasn’t sent in a hurtful way, it’s just poor timing.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee

    I think “& guest” is the safest and easiest option. 

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper

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    hunting_bride :  Me personally I’d go with guest if you don’t know her name.  When my husband and I started dating he was already invited to his cousin’s wedding but because they knew my name my name was on the invite.  But I would assume if they didn’t I would be as “guest”

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee

    Definitely guest.  How weird if by the time it’s delivered they somehow break up!  Don’t stress too much over it.  

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    at our wedding, a groomsman had a new girlfriend ( i think it was 2 months).  i met her for the first time at the rehearsal dinner.  not a big deal to me at all.

    a year and a half later, we attended their wedding.

    we did not put “and guest,” we called everyone we didn’t know the names of their SO’s so we could say who we wanted to invite, we didn’t want it to be open ended.

    as of now, they are a couple.  why wouldn’t you invite her????

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2027

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    hunting_bride :  How close you are to him does not matter. It’s a new relationship and a lot can happen between now and Oct. 

    Post # 12
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    6369 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    So this sort of thing kind of happened for our reception. One of my husband’s good friends (not a groomsmen though, just a regular guest) had literally started dating a woman a month before invites went out. But we could tell he was super excited about this burgeoning relationship. So before I addressed our invites (and place cards), I simply messaged him asking for the spelling of his new gf’s name. Easy peasy. 

    Less than 6 months later, they got engaged! And he has told me since then how happy his Fiance was at the time to see her name next to his on our place cards. It made both of them feel special and loved, and that made me smile because that’s how I wanted all our guests to feel. 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee

    Double post, don’t know why!

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee

    I think that going to the trouble of having the recipient’s names engraved is terrific,  but I can’t imagine anyone being able to justify being offended by attending a wedding as an “& Guest”, since it’s used so frequently in this situation.

    I can also see how flattering it would be for someone who was in a relatively new romance to be named personally on an invitation for such a special event.

    Do what YOU’d prefer. Either way you’ll be right!

    Blessings!

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee

    Seems like you two are close, so why not ask? My then-boyfriend, now husband, got an “and Guest” invitation to his brother’s wedding even though we had been together as long as the couple. I was fine with that. 

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