(Closed) Inviting the Officiant to the Reception

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Good question. I was wondering that as well. Our officiant is getting an invite to the Rehearsal Dinner (my mom told me he should be invited)

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was told you should always invite your officiant, but that unless you had a close relationship with him, he would most likely decline.  That was how it worked for us.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We will be sending our officiant an invitation as well as a plus one for her husband.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I wouldn’t send my officiant an invite but I usually see them stay for cocktail hour.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We sent out officiant an invitation as well as included his wife on the invitation.  He will also be receiving a formal invitation to the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@aaiimmee: I’m sure he’s not. It’s not the first thing you would think of so it was just an oversight. Most people may overlook it when they are sending out invitations because you know officiant will definitely be at the wedding.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We invited ours.  He is a family friend though, so we are expecting him to attend.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i have been wondering this too. i hadn’t even thought about the rehearsal dinner. i’ve never seen an officiatn attend a rehearsal dinner before, is that common? our officiant will be driving about 45 minutes to our venue so i guess it would be nice of us to feed him. just seems like it would be weird for them since they won’t know anyone (although of course i’d invite them with their spouse). our rehearsal dinner will probably be only 20 people, all Bridal Party and their spouses/dates, and our parents.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I did not consider inviting our officiant to the reception. Our wedding was very small and we do not know the officiant personally. Once she was there we invited her to stay for cocktail hour, and she did, but after that she left.

If you do not actually want your officiant to attend the reception, I would not go ahead and invite him/her. As a general rule, do not invite someone out of duty and assume they won’t attend if you do not actually want them there….because if you invite someone, they certainly may attend!

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