Post # 1
What is the “rule” for inviting vendors to the reception? I know typically the priest or officiant attends and eats, as does the DJ, photographer, and possibly florist. But do they get a “plus one?” Or is it just part of their “price package” for a meal?
Also what do you guys think about “vendors” who are personal contacts? I am probably going to have a girl I went to high school with do our cake. So of course I wouldn’t mind if she attended the reception and had a meal, but does she get a plus one? Also our florist is probably going to be a friend of a friend.
How does this work?
Are there any other vendors I’m missing that I should expect to feed?
(FYI: I don’t have a problem feeding any of these people. I’m just curious how many “extra” plates I’ll need in addition to the rest of the guest list).
Post # 3
no plus ones except for the officiant. ours declined. other than our dj and photographer, only our photo booth attendant had a vendor meal. the floral team did not stay after setting up. i offered them meals but they declined. i asked our venue if i missed anyone since they do this all the time and they said no.
Post # 4
They are providing you a service that you are paying for. They are not your guests. You don’t invite them, because they are attending to work. If they were guests they would be dancing nor playing the music.
If you do invite them the same social rules apply about inviting social units together apply.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t “invite” vendors and in the question-answer period of hiring, one should ask if they (the vendor) requires breaks (how long and how many) and if they require a meal to be provided.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
The only “vendor” we invited was my minister and his wife. Unless there’s a close relationship, the officiant and spouse usually decline. Your officiant is the only one who needs a plus one.
You don’t need to invite the baker or florist, they’re just there for drop off/set up. You should provide meals for the DJ, photographer, videographer, and DOC- anyone who’ll be there for the full wedding. Some of the caterers we talked to provided vendor meals for free- the one we’ve booked does them for 50%.
Post # 7
The pastor and his wife and our DOC are included in the reception. No plus 1 for the DOC as she will be busy anyway.
Our photographers gave us heads up that they will need an hour to get their own supper. But we’ll include them in the late night reception of snacks and drinks.
I don’t think we will include our live band in the dinner, but we will include them in the late night reception as well.
For our ceremony string trio — My husband’s cousin is playing violin and he’s invited with his wife. We will include the other 2 musicians in the cocktails (shortly after the ceremony), but not in the dinner.
Post # 8
We are inviting our officiant and the assiting Deacon of our church as actual guests. I’m sure the Deacon, if he accepts, will bring his wife. The officiant is a Catholic priest so I doubt there will be a +1 for him. The photographers (2), videographers (2), photobooth operators (2), and DJs (2) all have it in their contracts that a meal must be provided. Since we have round tables that sit 10, I’ll extend an offer to my florist and her assistant if they want to join them to make a full table. Their table will have the same food as all my other guests, just no alcohol. The last thing I want to do is get my vendors tipsy.