(Closed) Inviting your guests +1?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we are doing a married/engaged/life partner rule – except for the bridal party – even though the single members of the bridal party probably wont bring dates anyway. everyone else doesnt get a plus one.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I allowed all my guests to bring someone.  We had a smaller wedding and ended up having a lot of people not come though so we really needed the extra guests.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re allowing fiances and spouses. We have made a couple of exceptions to this rule in cases where a guest does not know anybody else or very few others that will be at the wedding. 

I wish we could be more liberal with the rule, but this would put us over our limit. If I extended it, I’d have to invite fewer of my friends…and I’m pretty sure they’d rather be invited alone than not invited at all.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I invited all spouses.  Guests who would only know 1 or 2 people have a plus 1.  Others did not . . . with the exception of FI’s coworkers.  I allowed all of them plus 1 (but I only invited 3 co workers & 3 former co-workers).

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are only inviting “seriously dating” and up.  We’re making an exception for a work friend of his mom’s who will only know a couple of people and is an older adult.  Honestly, I think most of my friends would prefer not to scrounge up a guest that none of our other friends will know and they’ll have to babysit all night.  Plus I think some of the singles are looking forward to hitting on each other!  Ha!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are allowing all of our guests to have a plus 1!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We are allowing fiances and spouses only, well, with the exception of a few out of towners that we know would prefer to travel with company.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

All of our guests are allowed a +1. As a former long term single girl, I know I’d appreciate the option to have a guest and not feel lonely all night because I didn’t have a long-term enough relationship to receive a +1 at a wedding.

I understand that this doesn’t work for everyone on acocunt of budgets, etc., but honestly, I’d rather not be invited to a wedding than be invited without the offer of a +1. I find a lot of posts on the Bee about people feeling excluded because of policies that limit the +1 option to only specific categories and I wouldn’t want to make any of my guests feel that way.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We included a plus one for everybody.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My rule is engaged or living together.  Spouses are a given.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

Our wedding was small enough that we knew everyone’s SO, so it never really was an issue with us.  However, we did invite a couple of people without inviting their wives.  Ironically we never thought twice about it.  One of them doesn’t live with his wife, so it wouldn’t have made sense to invite her anyway.  The other one does live with his wife, but doesn’t get along with her well enough to have travelled to our wedding with her.  (Awkward)  So we simply omitted the two in our guest list.  Worked out well for everyone in the end.

One failure for my Darling Husband though was he didn’t tell me his uncle had a Girlfriend.  Or that they’ve been dating for years.  Or that they’re living together.  I thought he was single, his invite went out for just him, he RSVPd just for him.  Then at my 25 person wedding, he showed up with not only the Girlfriend in tow, but also her 16 year old daughter!  Sigh.

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