(Closed) inviting your officiant

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it would be a nice gesture to invite them to the rehearsal dinner, since they just did the rehearsal with you.  It would be up to you whether to invite them to the reception.  I will be inviting my pastor and his wife (whether or not they come) to the reception, but he has known me since I was a baby, so the situation is a bit different in my case!  

Post # 4
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club

I’m not catholic, but I am Luthern and we are getting married in my church :). This might help.

I asked my mom, and she said traditonaly, the pastor will be invited to the reception, and will bless our meal. He may or may not stay the whole time at the reception. He will also be present at the rehersal dinner – I guess you’re supposed to invite them to the rehersal, but its up to him if he comes.

And there’s so many small things to worry about! HAng in there! Good luck!

Post # 5
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m kinda force to invite my pastor to my rehearsal dinner and reception—he’s my grandpa!! Anyway, I agree with dance that it would be a nice gesture to invite him to the dinner. I’d mostly invite him to the reception too, as I couldn’t think of having anyone I did personally know marry me and my husband. 

Post # 6
1189 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Yes, you invite your officiant and his/her spouse (although he is a priest, so probably not an issue) to both the rehearsal dinner and reception.  Also, don’t forget to feed your DJ/ band, photographer, etc. at the reception!

Post # 8
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes, we invited our Officiant to the reception, but the ceremony is in the same location so he will just stay and enjoy the festivities. He’s down to earth and has a great sense of humor, we both had a great time during our first meeting with him that we were thrilled to have him join us! Actually, I have the best group of vendors…I couldn’t be happier!

Post # 9
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yes. We are inviting my pastor and family (who is performing the ceremony), FH’s pastor and family, and our future pastor and family (the church we will be attending after we are married).

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