Post # 1
Does anyone else have a pet peeve against people expecting to be invited to the wedding? This above all else really grates my nerves! Case in point, first time I met one of FI’s friend’s girlfriends, she asked us that even if she & friend aren’t together, could she come because she just loves weddings! Then yesterday, one of our neighbors, who I don’t even like, told us he would totally be there. I have also had not-so-close co-workers ask when their invite was coming. I just kind of smile and say that we haven’t gotten that far in the planning yet.
While, I totally understand when it’s family, my aunt had asked that we invite my great aunts and uncles (It’s doubtful that they will even come, and we are Italian, it’s just what we do!), but when casual aquaintances ask, it just seems rude!
Am I alone in this? How do you tell people that they will not be invited to the wedding?
Post # 3
haha I thought this was about sending an invitation to yourself… I am doing that. 🙂
I would never have the nerve to assume I’m invited to a wedding. My cousin is getting married next year (she’s having a destination wedding) and I still am not assuming I’m going lol. Until I have an invite- I won’t ask!
I’ve had to deal with this a lot. I’ve even had someone assume she’s going to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man (although we aren’t even friends). Weddings bring out the crazies in everyone…. I guess, if anything, you should be flattered that these people care about you and want to share in your big day. haha even if they’re completely out there in thinking they’ll be invited.
Post # 4
This behavior boggles my mind, as I would never assume that I’d be invited to anyone’s wedding. Almost to a fault! Back before we were engaged, some of my fiance’s friends were getting married, and while they knew me and knew that our relationship was serious, the invitation was addressed only to him. Neither of us was willing to ask about an “And Guest”, so he just went solo. And partway through the reception, the groom came up to him and asked where I was! So my fiance had to explain “Um, she’s at home because she wasn’t invited.”
Alas, I have no helpful advice, because I have no idea what to do with these sorts of people either! But hopefully someone else will have an awesome idea!
Post # 5
@redherring: That happened to me too!! I wasn’t on an invite & it didn’t say “and guest” so even though I was in town, I stayed home… (which I still think was best b/c he was a GM) at the reception when he wasn’t dancing & was getting ready to leave the groom was like “What the… you said she’d be in town” lol but they never officially invited me.
Post # 6
@RecessionistaBride – HA! That’s awesome! If nothing else, it has made me super careful with the invites to our wedding, making sure that no one’s SO gets unintentionally left off the list.