(Closed) Inviting yourself?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

haha I thought this was about sending an invitation to yourself… I am doing that. 🙂

I would never have the nerve to assume I’m invited to a wedding. My cousin is getting married next year (she’s having a destination wedding) and I still am not assuming I’m going lol. Until I have an invite- I won’t ask!

I’ve had to deal with this a lot. I’ve even had someone assume she’s going to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man (although we aren’t even friends). Weddings bring out the crazies in everyone…. I guess, if anything, you should be flattered that these people care about you and want to share in your big day. haha even if they’re completely out there in thinking they’ll be invited.

Post # 4
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1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This behavior boggles my mind, as I would never assume that I’d be invited to anyone’s wedding. Almost to a fault! Back before we were engaged, some of my fiance’s friends were getting married, and while they knew me and knew that our relationship was serious, the invitation was addressed only to him. Neither of us was willing to ask about an “And Guest”, so he just went solo. And partway through the reception, the groom came up to him and asked where I was! So my fiance had to explain “Um, she’s at home because she wasn’t invited.”

Alas, I have no helpful advice, because I have no idea what to do with these sorts of people either! But hopefully someone else will have an awesome idea!

Post # 5
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@redherring: That happened to me too!! I wasn’t on an invite & it didn’t say “and guest” so even though I was in town, I stayed home… (which I still think was best b/c he was a GM) at the reception when he wasn’t dancing & was getting ready to leave the groom was like “What the… you said she’d be in town” lol but they never officially invited me.

Post # 6
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1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@RecessionistaBride – HA! That’s awesome! If nothing else, it has made me super careful with the invites to our wedding, making sure that no one’s SO gets unintentionally left off the list.

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