(Closed) Inviting kids: only if related?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: which kids do you invite to your wedding?

    All kids, regardless of relation to you

    Only kids who are related to you

    Kids you are related to AND kids you know personally

    No kids!

  • Post # 17
    3323 posts
    Sugar bee

    People can feel however they like about it. But that doesn’t mean they have a leg to stand on about it being proper.

    The host sends out an invitation and the guests are free to decline if they don’t like the terms of the invite. You like to sleep in and they invite you to an morning wedding, decline. You like steak and the choices are Chicken or Veg, decline. You get invited without your kids, and you and Timmy are surgically attached at the hip, decline.

    Etiquette is on your side. The only people that must be invited are Social units if you invite one, you invite both. Otherwise it’s up to you.

    Post # 18
    62 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Other than our flowergirls and ringbearer (who happen to be our godchildren), all kids invited to our wedding are related to us. I’ve been upfront with all of our friends about this and literally all of them are actually looking forward to a night out. Most of them are looking at it like a date night : )

    Post # 19
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I am only inviting kids that are in our family and I think 2 Out of Town kids.  I already started to give people the heads up before our invitations go out because I had about 2 people talking about buying an outfit for their child to wear.   So far I only see 1 person being a problem.  Her husband probably won’t come.  I’ve only met him twice and I think she is going to use the whole can’t her daughter take his seat thing, but I’m sticking to my rule.   If she declines, that’s fine.

    Post # 20
    879 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We’re doing the same, if we even do have kids there other than our ring bearer and flower girl. Only kids who are related will be invited. Friends seem to be okay with leaving their kids at home, which means they can enjoy the wedding without worrying about them.

    Post # 21
    2153 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It’s a personal choice that is uusally based on budget…

    We decided to only allow kids in our emmediate families, as well as a few verys mall children, but other than that, it’s adults only.

    Post # 22
    3306 posts
    Sugar bee

    We are only inviting kids of those related.

    Post # 23
    2 posts
    • Wedding: September 2012


    We are haivng one kid, my cousin… even though his family has lots of kids and there are other kids in the counts… we just don’t want to have kids running around the venue (outdoor arboretum). We are also shooting for about 100 guests and perfer adults.

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