(Closed) Invivitations Are In (Angry Mom)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No, at least I don’t think so. If you and your Fiance are paying for your wedding I think it’s acceptable to write “together with their parents” on the invitation, because they aren’t hosting! Hopefully she’ll just get over it…

Post # 4
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Agree with the bee above. If you are paying, your parents have no say in the matter and your mom needs to get over it.

Post # 5
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Your mom needs to get over it, she isn’t paying…and she needs to pay you back!

Post # 6
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

No…you did nothing wrong.


Parents names are listed on a wediding invitation if they are the hosts (e.g. PAY for the wedding.)


When the bride and groom PAY for the wedding it’s custom to word it:  “Bride and groom together with their families.”



Post # 7
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

To my understanding, whoever is paying for/hosting the wedding should go on the invitation.  If the couple is paying for the wedding, then it should only be your names on the invite

Post # 9
1653 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Elizabeth_A:  I can TOTALLY relate!  My Fiance and I are footing the majority of the bill (my parents have chipped in some, FI’s mom has not) and FI’s dad is not in the picture.  SO, I originally had the “together with their parents”, then my dad got upset-my mom was fine as she understood the situation.  To make everyone happy, I had “Ms. Lavenderbride24 daughther of Mr. and Mrs. so and so” and “FI name son of Mrs. so and so” placed on them instead.


 They came out nicely.

Post # 10
3230 posts
Sugar bee

@Elizabeth_A:  Nope. She’s not paying she doesn’t get to decide.

I did, “FFIL and Future Mother-In-Law request the honor of your presence to the marriage of their son Fiance to nelya8503…” because they are footing most of the bill.

Post # 11
9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you’re fine. Hopefully she’ll come around. Maybe show her other examples of invitations that have used similar wording? Sometimes people just don’t realize that things have changed…

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